Spirituality, not religion, makes kids happy

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To add another log to the religion debate fire around here:

**Spirituality, not religion, makes kids happy ** Relationships more vital to tweens’ emotional health than going to church By LiveScience staff LiveScience updated 10:43 a.m. PT, Fri., Jan. 9, 2009
The link between spirituality and happiness is pretty well-established for teens and adults. More spirituality brings more happiness. Now a study has reached into the younger set, finding the same link in “tweens” and in kids in middle childhood. Specifically, the study shows that children who feel that their lives have meaning and value and who develop deep, quality relationships — both measures of spirituality, the researchers claim — are happier.

Personal aspects of spirituality (meaning and value in one’s own life) and communal aspects (quality and depth of inter-personal relationships) were both strong predictors of children’s happiness, said study leader Mark Holder from the University of British Columbia in Canada and his colleagues Ben Coleman and Judi Wallace.

However, religious practices were found to have little effect on children’s happiness, Holder said.

Religion is just one institutionalized venue for the practice of or experience of spirituality, and some people say they are spiritual but are less enthusiastic about the concept of God.

Other research has shown a connection between well-adjusted and well-behaved children and religion, but that is not the same, necessarily, as happiness.

Spirituality trumps temperament
In an effort to identify strategies to increase children’s happiness, Holder and colleagues set out to better understand the nature of the relationship between spirituality, religiousness and happiness in children aged 8 to 12 years.

A total of 320 children, from four public schools and two faith-based schools, completed six different questionnaires to rate their happiness, their spirituality, their religiousness and their temperament. Parents were also asked to rate their child’s happiness and temperament.
A child’s temperament was also an important predictor of happiness. In particular, happier children were more sociable and less shy. The relationship between spirituality and happiness remained strong, even when the authors took temperament into account.

However, counterintuitively, religious practices — including attending church, praying and meditating — had little effect on a child’s happiness.
And therein may lie some useful information for parents.

“Enhancing personal meaning may be a key factor in the relation between spirituality and happiness,” the researchers stated. Strategies aimed at increasing personal meaning in children — such as expressing kindness towards others and recording these acts of kindness, as well as acts of altruism and volunteering — may help to make children happier, Holder suggests.

These findings were detailed in the Dec. 11 online edition of the Journal of Happiness Studies.

More on teens and spirituality
Another research project recently added weight to previously known links between spirituality and happiness among teens.

This researchers compared teenagers with the inflammatory bowel disease (IBD) with their healthy peers. The analysis showed that while spirituality helped all the kids cope, it was especially helpful for the ones with IBD (which causes abdominal pain and other nasty symptoms, as well as higher risk for psychosocial difficulties and mental health problems; it is more serious than and not the same as IBS or spastic colon). The exact cause of IBD is not known, and there is no cure.

The researchers, Dr. Michael Yi and Sian Cotton at the University of Cincinnati, defined spirituality as one’s sense of meaning or purpose in life or one’s sense of connectedness to the sacred or divine. Again, they weren’t talking about religion, church, temple or mosque.

Teams led by Yi and Cotton collected data on socio-demographics, functional health status and psychosocial characteristics as well as spiritual well-being for 67 patients with IBD and 88 healthy adolescents between the ages of 11 and 19.

One of the most important predictors of poorer overall quality of life for both the healthy and the sick teens was having a poorer sense of spiritual well-being, Yi said, although personal characteristics such as self esteem, family functioning and social support were similar between adolescents with IBD and their healthy peers.

Less depression, more well-being
Cotton’s analysis of the same 155 adolescents found that higher levels of spiritual well-being were associated with fewer depressive symptoms and better emotional well-being.

“However, even though both healthy adolescents and those with IBD had relatively high levels of spiritual well-being, the positive association between spiritual well-being and mental health outcomes was stronger in the adolescents with IBD as compared to their healthy peers,” Cotton said, noting that this indicates spiritual well-being may play a different role for teens with a chronic illness in terms of impacting their health or helping them cope.

The results were detailed in recent online versions of the Journal of Pediatrics and the Journal of Adolescent Health. Yi’s and Cotton’s research was funded by career development awards by the National Institute for Child Health and Human Development, part of the National Institutes of Health. © 2009 LiveScience.com. All rights reserved.
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Other research has shown a connection between well-adjusted and well-behaved children and religion, but that is not the same, necessarily, as happiness.

I’ve seen a strong correlation there… also with academic performance. It also helps with the cohesiveness of the group (and “fear” of outsiders). I think this has a lot to do with the persistance of religion.

The researchers, Dr. Michael Yi and Sian Cotton at the University of Cincinnati, defined spirituality as one’s sense of meaning or purpose in life or one’s sense of connectedness to the sacred or divine.

I’m always confused about the choice of words. Meaning and purpose do not equal sacred and divine. Ultimately, there can’t possibly be “meaning and purpose” to life, and plenty of people have a “sense of meaning and purpose” that is diametrically opposed to the sacred or divine.

Or are they trying to say that these two very different concepts give the same result (ie happiness)?

Jen,

That is interesting and not terribly surprising to me. There is a book I read a few years ago when I was going through a rough spot called Losing Your Religion, Finding Your Faith that suggested much of the same stuff.

One thing I would add though in favor of organized Religion that is not provided by spirituality alone. This is the concept of Rites of Passage. I think these are terribly important for development and they are something that religion provides quite readily.

Bernie

Personal aspects of spirituality (meaning and value in one’s own life) and communal aspects (quality and depth of inter-personal relationships) were both strong predictors of children’s happiness,

Isn’t it rather common knowledge that if kids are liked by peers (relationships), feel they are worthwhile (meaning/value), tend to have a great tendency to be happy?

**However, counterintuitively, religious practices — including attending church, praying and meditating — had little effect on a child’s happiness. **

Hold on, they actually conducted a study to demonstrate this? They say “counter-intuitively”?!?!?!?!?!? Religion without the intense spirituality is like a marriage without deep love, honor and trust. These guys went to a lot of trouble to state the obvoius.

Any of these guys attend curch as an 8-12yo? Let me explain, sitting in a pew listening to a Sermon/lecture, and praying for 5 minutes (while mentioning the names of everyone in church that submitted a prayer request) are not things that are highly valued by a kid ages 8 to 12, let alone lead them to happiness. Seriously.

Other research has shown a connection between well-adjusted and well-behaved children and religion, but that is not the same, necessarily, as happiness.


I kinda chuckled at this because it points out a major positive connected to religion, and then wisps it away by suggesting that it doesn’t mean the same thing as “happy” … as if well-adjusted and well-behaved were contrary to happy. Anyone NOT well-adjusted and well-behaved AND truly happy?


So, basically the study seperated the spiritual aspects of religion from the physical actions/traditions and then concluded that the former is more important than the other in kids aged 8 to 12? (in regards to happiness). No kidding.

I think we would all recognize that if kids are like by their peers and feel worthwile, they tend to be more happy. I think we could also state that a lot of kids do not find church particularly fun or full of meaning … especially when we’re talking about adult church and prayer.

It might also be interesting to see a study regarding the “happiness” of children 8 to 12 that are active in religious youth groups that involve positive interactions with adults and cooperative activities with peers, as well as messages of belonging and being loved.

Anyway, I gotta run, I’m initiating a study about whether kids with affectionate and active (emotionally) parents are happier than kids whose parents are withdrawn and distant (emotionally). grin

Anyone NOT well-adjusted and well-behaved AND truly happy?

A well trained dog is a happy dog…

I can say that I was never truly happy until I rejected religion… and that was considered very bad behavior by my family and friends at the time.

Obviously, you don’t have any kids. Get back to us when you get some real world knowledge.

My real point was that it is THE spiritual relationship with the deity and the relationships among “brethren” that make religion a quality human experience … not the act of going to church, practicing the procedures/rites/sacrments, etc … just as it is love, trust, etc that makes a happy marriage … not the ceremony, ring, legal documents, daily routine, etc.

Obviously many of the spritual and physical aspects will have carry over to each other, but to seperate one from the other as a means of determining which makes a person happy? To me, it seems like a foregone conclusion.

If one never experiences a close, meaningful, and worthwhile spiritual relationship with the diety and fellow members that leads to an increase in happiness, then certainly, the physical actions/routines aren’t going to lead to happiness on their own … no more so than “going through the motions” of any endeavor is going to be fulfilling.

My contention is that it doesn’t make sense to seperate the “spirituality” from the “religion” to reach a conclusion … especially when regarding an age group that is dominated by relationships and emotions.

Obviously, you don’t have any kids. Get back to us when you get some real world knowledge.
I love your tolerance.

Obviously, you don’t have any kids. Get back to us when you get some real world knowledge.

You just look for reasons to attack me, dont you? Go back and read my intro to the post. I was sharing a study, not stating any opinion whatsoever.

My real point was that it is THE spiritual relationship with the deity and the relationships among “brethren” that make religion a quality human experience … not the act of going to church, practicing the procedures/rites/sacrments, etc … just as it is love, trust, etc that makes a happy marriage … not the ceremony, ring, legal documents, daily routine, etc.

I agree. And I also believe that most religious institutions use these “things which make us happy” and turn it into a means for power and control.

Of course that isn’t what the “study” was trying to show… and I don’t think they did a very good job of showing what they were trying to… whatever that was.