Several years ago I lost my father, at the time I held a job where I was drug tested regularly. I didn’t go and get super high or into a drunken stupor. So when we talk about personal loss and drug use, that’s just an excuse.
Not just to you but to a lot of people who are showing a lack of compassion on this thread.
Before you go saying it’s just an excuse, step back & go walk a mile in her shoes. She’s not you. You don’t apply to her, your situation doesn’t apply to her. Her relationship with her Mom isn’t the relationship you had with your Dad. You don’t know what went on behind the scenes in that relationship or the impact her Mom’s death had on her.
Honestly about half the posters on this thread should just stfu bc it shows what a dick you are.
I usually take extended leaves from ST because of observations you make here. It gets emotionally overwhelming.