ShyGirl has found a ShyGuy she wishes to subtly (but not too subtly) hint her interest to through music. What songs should she make sure he hears?
All kinds of music, old and new, whatever genre suggestions considered. Not too interested in anything with super-explicit lyrics. In other words, songs talking about sex are okay, but songs where people’s genitals and their various states of engorgement or natural lubrication are described in detail are not in the right ballpark.
I’ll toss out one suggestion as well: anything by the band Morphine.
In other words, songs talking about sex are okay, but songs where people’s genitals and their various states of engorgement or natural lubrication are described in detail are not in the right ballpark.
So “Sugar Walls” by Sheena Easton is out, right?
How about “Holding Out for a Hero” Bonnie Tyler? Subtle, but not obscure and works without modification for your situation.
Or “The first time ever I saw your face” Roberta Flack. (Caution, introduce this one too early, and he is off for a restraining order.)
Or “I’ll Drive All Night” Celine Dion. To the point.
Or “Knock Three Times” Tony Orlando and Dawn. Or Candida for that matter. Going for the sing along fun stuff. (Gotta love Pandora.com)
Or “Come Dancing” the Kinks. Ditto.
Or “Can’t Get You Out of My Head” Kylie Minogue. Straight forward and you can dance to it.
Noble thoughts, but I am afraid you are doomed to failure. Guys and hints just don’t mix.
Rules for Giving Guys Hints
First get the full attention of the guy you want to give the hint to.
Whack said guy across the head with a 2 x 4. NB: Do not knock said guy unconscious as this will also defeat your purpose.
Tell target guy “I am going to give you a hint.”
Tell your target the hint.
Whack the target guy one more time.
Tell your target guy you just gave him a hint.
If you are the optimistic type, you can ask him if he got the hint. Generally, most knowledgeable women automatically repeat steps 1 through 6.
Now, for you women out there with husbands, these rules use to work, but husbands build up an immunity over time, and therefore require more severe measures. Be careful, though, regarding the more severe measures as the occassional slight excess of hint preparation results in the occassional, inadvertent but tragic, case of manslaughter.
Parkito is spot on. If you are interested in him, sit down and tell him. He will appreciate your honesty, and it will save you the frustration of wondering why he isn’t getting all these musical hints you’re laying down all over the place.
Exactly. I was at my youngest sister’s house last night at a party she was having and a young 20ish girl couldn’t understand why her boyfriend (a contracter) wasn’t coming over when she described the party as having really good white russians.
Well, while I thank you for your advice and I tend to agree, there is a LOT of backstory here too that would explain why the music would help. I find sharing too much backstory on ST tends not to get you the answers you want any more than a concise request, so I haven’t shared it.
Anyhow, the music is only a sort of prelude idea, it’s not that I don’t have a 2x4 standing at the ready.
Are you making him a mixed tape/CD or something? Or are these songs that you’re going to try and have playing in the background while you two are together? (I should note, I’m not making fun of you)
To soften the posts of those above, guys are from a woman’s perspective, pretty stupid. What constitutes “subtlety” from your perspective tends to be “obscure” from ours. I’m not recommending you just walking up to him and laying a big one on him (though that’d be pretty cool if he’s interested).
It sounds like you’re trying to figure out if he’s interested, and looking for ways to indicate that you are. Almost always, a guy is interested if he shows any attention or gives any effort. If you invite me out to a party or a bar, and I show, I’m interested.
I have not clue wha this movie interests are, but maybe you could ask him if he wants to see the new Bond movie (shows you are cool, and it’s not explicitly romantic). Then, at the movie, see if he sits near you etc. You can easily brush your hand up against his, or whisper something into his ear. If he doesn’t move away from either, you’re in. I’ve had a few girls (in bars or movies etc) pull the whispering thing, it’s great (for me).
It should be noted that I’m also very shy around girls I like. You have to play to your audience.
If he’s putting any effort into being around you, the odds are overwhelmingly in your favor that he’s interested.
OK just cook him a nice X’mas dinner, any soft romantic tunes will do, then present yourself as the X’mas present in your B’day suit sporting a big red bow tied around yourself. At least that’s what would turn me on.
Exactly. I was at my youngest sister’s house last night at a party she was having and a young 20ish girl couldn’t understand why her boyfriend (a contracter) wasn’t coming over when she described the party as having really good white russians.
I sat her down and had a talk with her.
LOL!!! yeah, had she said “they’ll have burgers and wings, football on tv, and coolers full of iced beer…” he would have been ready to go before she was.
it’s hard for younger women to think like a guy…because to do so requires a “dumbing down” of the mind. it’s hard for women to accept that it really is as simple as sports, food, sex, beer.
