More ignorant than racist or stupid.
It may be fact that there are a lot of Asians on campus but somewhat ignorant to think her tuition is financing their educations. She might want to look more towards the athletic department than any racial group.
I thought this was going to be about an Al Gore rant on AGW deniers.
I think perhaps societies benefit when stupid comments are publicly ridiculed quickly, rather than to be polite and let stupid ideas grow in the minds of the stupid.
you people test ideas out a lot with people, hint at ideas brewing in their head, say them aloud to test peoples reactions.
lots of times people just nod and smile, giving acceptance to the bullshit. better to say “no, sounds like horseshit to me bro”
doesn’t mean you can’t still hang out =)
It was a stupid comment made by the kind of person inclined to make stupid comments. Nothing surprising there.
What is surprising is that a concerned relative would draw attention to it, and essentially call her a racist in a public forum, when a discreet private message of caution would suffice. Of the two offenses, I’m inclined to think the latter was more egregious.
The kid is 18. Probably doesn’t know any better. Your wife is probably older than that, and also should probably know better than to bother responding/calling the kid out on a site like facebook.
And I, probably older than your wife, am now calling her out here. So I guess I am a hypocrite.
I think this whole issue is representative of what is wrong with America.
Some 18 year says something and your wife has to offer her opinion. Then you have to ask others what they thought about what your wife said. And these others even responded!
Who gives a shit?
There is too much talkin’ and not enough doin’.
Get off the internet and dig a hole or something; if you can’t be useful, then look busy!
What’s interesting to me is how someone who is 18 and was never wanton for anything…
"You might want to check the meaning of that word… "
Maybe the word was “wonton,” considering her rant was against Asians… 
Miami of Ohio.
Seriously? This girl really doesn’t get out much. Miami is about 90% Caucasian (and 3% Asian). Where did she grow up?
So I wouldn’t call out outright racism, but ignorance for sure. Doesn’t come across well, though, and the comment won’t help her befriend any of the Asian students on campus.
I think a study abroad semester in China is a good idea for this one 
Generally speaking, I’m on board with that plan. But older, supposedly wiser relatives should probably be looking out for the younger, and take a more productive and protective approach when they identify a problem. A PM would be productive; public confrontation and accusation is more combative and destructive than helpful.
Although it’s entirely possible that his wife doesn’t really like the cousin to begin with, but I wouldn’t make that assumption.
oops, what is the expression? Never wanted for anything?
The racist part is that she made a negative value judgement about a group of people based solely upon their race.
The stupid parts are many, but considering she is attending a State school with In-State tuition, by definition, she’s not even covering the cost of her own tuition.
oops, what is the expression? Never wanted for anything?
Much better. There’s an old pun about being “found wanton,” that I can’t remember.
A few comments.
The problem with things like Facebook, Twitter, etc is that people think they can type things that they might say in a casual conversation amongst a group of friends.
I could imagine myself at the age of 18 sitting around with my buddies saying something like “Wow, look at that ______(insert any non-white race here. I wonder what kind of scholarship they are on? Sucks that I am paying full tuition.” We would all laugh and then grab another Keystone Light and it would never be thought of again. No one would think that I was racist because of the comment.
When you put it out on social media it goes to a place where your “close buddies” are not the only one’s listening. An 18 year old should probably not have her Aunt as a friend on Facebook, but that is besides the point. I have had nieces/nephews request “friend” status and I have declined them. I may put a little adult humor out there once in a while and I would rather not have to explain it to a 14 year old.
What if she put “Wow, look at all of these________ (Fat, Skinny, Ugly, Tall, Short, Hairy, etc) people on campus”. Probably wouldn’t make any waves at all.
Saying “Asian” in and of itself is not racist. It is descriptive. The tuition comment is a little off color, but it’s not like she said “Dang these Asians and their tiny weiners. And large brains. Who do they think they are trying to take over MY campus? I want them all to die. Go back to Asia.” (BTW - I have heard that there is racism amongst various Asian groups - Chinese don’t like Japanese. Japanese don’t like Philipinos).
I respectfully disagree. When people say something like that in public, I believe that they need to be publicly called on it. It was also “directed” at the 5 other people who “liked” the statement. I think that type of behavior/statement needs to be directly confronted.
Whether those Asian are foreign students or US students is a big diff!
Unless things have changes AFAIK tuition for foreign students is way way more than for US students. so it could be actually the reverse.
Fred.
I could imagine myself at the age of 18 sitting around with my buddies saying something like “Wow, look at that ______(insert any non-white race here. I wonder what kind of scholarship they are on? Sucks that I am paying full tuition.” We would all laugh and then grab another Keystone Light and it would never be thought of again. No one would think that I was racist because of the comment.
When you put it out on social media it goes to a place where your “close buddies” are not the only one’s listening.
Just because your buddies don’t think something is racist, doesn’t mean it isn’t. I’d just say the whole group is racist, or maybe those that disagree are too chicken to speak up. Still racist, no matter who the audience is.
If someone posts something like that publicly, I have no problem with them being called out on it publicly. More people should speak up instead of just shaking their heads.
Are we not reading the same thing? “So many Asians at Miami this year. My tuition is probably paying for 4 of them.”
You seem to be focused on the first sentence and omitting the second. Complaining about her (and I say “her” loosely as it seems from the discussion none of the money came from her) tuition paying for 4 of them clearly puts it in the second category.
You are probably right. But still, the complaint could be that her tuition is paying for someone else to go to college. That, in and of itself, is not racist. She also may have identified the asians as “likely being smart,” which though it is definitely a stereotype, its not considered racist.
ie Asians are smart, smart people go to college for free and I have to pay for it, I don’t like paying for other people - not racist.
Asians go to school for free, I have to pay for it, I don’t like asians - racist.
Alexandra Wallace - cautionary tale
ching chong, ling long, ting tong
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I could imagine myself at the age of 18 sitting around with my buddies saying something like “Wow, look at that ______(insert any non-white race here. I wonder what kind of scholarship they are on? Sucks that I am paying full tuition.” We would all laugh and then grab another Keystone Light and it would never be thought of again. No one would think that I was racist because of the comment.
I can imagine considering you and your buddies racist. I can honestly admit that I have never looked at someone else’s skin color and for 1 second thought of how I might be subsidizing them. Perhaps that is because I actually am a minority, but in general my mind simply doesn’t work like that. Even now, when its clear my income does subsidize the less fortunate, I simply don’t think about it.
I do see obvious concerns with certain races, poverty, obesity, education, however these are not generalizations, they are truths and the more I see it, the more I want to help.
I don’t believe the way I think is abnormal.
The kid might not be racist. No I don’t think he is racist but he is painfully and I mean knife to the crotch painfully stupid. This kid is basically dead inside. I think your family in law should be deeply ashamed of this quivering mass of stupidity and shun him. Not for racism but for the ass reaming stupidity in his head. This kid’s stupidity makes the world a worse place. I am a little sad that this kid even exists. His parents need to be beaten for raising such a dumb kid.
So why do I hate this kid? Because what I have never ever ever ever heard, even from the dumbest most racist inbred East Texas redneck, is that Asians are coming over here and living off welfare. I hear constant bitching about them taking the good jobs but never living off the government.
Have you considered divorcing your wife do to the fact she is family with this waste of human blood. It’s something to think about.
P.S. Don’t divorce your wife but never talk to her side of the family. They might be dangerous.
Uh, Asians are not a race.
And isn’t the issue whether or not the author of the statement is, in fact, a “racist” (or anti-Asian)? A statement can’t be racist, but a person can be (even though humans are not divisible into races). Thus, the kid could be a racist and never say anything “racist” or could not be racist and say lots of “racist” things.