So my wife and I have decided to start a family. I’m turning 40 in a couple of months, and I’m about 8 years older than she is. I am very much looking forward to the process, but I do have a question:
Do you think it would be advantageous to get my “swimmers” checked out before starting the process?
Jason
just start hitting it and see what happens… don’t assume there is a problem…
Give it a year. If she’s not pregnant by then, you might get BOTH of you checked out.
My brother was 38 with his first one and 40 with his second. His wife is 6 years younger. Immediately after she went off birth control she was pregnant. Like, within a month. It was crazy. Not sure if that story helps but it is an example of being 40 and not having a problem getting pregnant!
I was married ten years before we had a kid( I finally figured it out and flipped her over and onto her back). I wish we would have had one sooner but it was a fun ten years. I didnt realize how set in our routines we were til we couldnt do them anymore, like leaving town or going out etc…
I say get them checked for the sick thrill of rubbing one out in a doctors office.
…or sleeping 
~Matt
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Men usually don’t have much of a problem with age. Men well over 40 get woman pregnant all the time. The female body begins to have issues with that eventually.
As others have stated, why not try first. You have nothing to lose.
I know this will sound like a very unusual suggestion- and I do make it respectfully, but don’t discount adopotion either even if you do start a family between your wife and yourself.
It is a great miracle to bring new life into the world, and also a great miracle to care for the life already here that otherwise may go uncared for. You may have both opportunities.
I know that may not have been what you’re aksing, but I thought I’d through that out there. Best of luck on your future family Sir!
They do provide lotion I’ve not experienced anything so awkward, yet oddly erotic, as spanking off into a small plastic container while knowing some young lady, that is a complete stranger is sitting at a desk right outside the door knowing exactly your mission, then walking out and handing the “Fruit of your labor” to her. Just one of those odd “Life experiences”.
I’ve often thought it would be a fun trick to sneak in some little guppies and just drop them in the jar with some water.
~Matt
Quit your job, go on government assistance, rent an 80’s muscle car, and hit it in the back seat.
You’ll have a litter in no time.
Seriously. Have you wife read up on the “fertile” time of the month. It’s only about 72 hours, but a fun 72 hours. After a couple of months, the see the Doc.
As I work for the government already, I won’t need to quit my job.
However, I have noticed that the IROC seems to be looking like a nicer car to me these days. And I just heard my local oldies station play the 80’s threetastic -Journey, REo & Styx - all in a row!
Hmmm…
May be the last time I get to look at a porn mag. Hmmmm…
Jason
I was 40 when we had our first child, and my wife is eight years younger than me. Your wife has plenty of time to have a child, and time won’t change your ability much if any. So go Nike (“Just Do It”) for 6 months of structured attempts before getting yourself checked out.
Oh, and the urologist/fertility doctor should allow you to generate the sample at home, if home is close enough to their office.
I lucked out when they wanted a sample after my vasectomy. I lived one block from the hospital. Got to do the deed at home.
Vasectomies are different, the swimmers don’t need to be alive. They’re just looking to see if they are there or not, dead or alive. I got to bring mine from home after the VC as well, doctor said time or “conditions” didn’t matter.
OTOH if you’re doing a fertility test I think you have to do it at the lab.
~Matt
Thanks for the insights Mr. Demerly,
Adoption was something we hadn’t discussed. It hadn’t crossed my mind.
Please don’t think I am shallow for thinking this (I plead ignorance at best) but I’ve always had it in my mind that adoption was something you do when you can’t get pregnant, or don’t want to get pregnant, or are past the age of being pregnant. I thought that the people who want kids, but can’t have them should be the first to be given the shot at adoption.
For some reason, it seems to me that if you are capable of having a child, you should attempt that first.
Now I realize that there are probably people on ST that have been adopted, and wish to apologize to any and all of them if this seems offensive.
Jason
Make sure you don’t go to a catholic hospital.
~Matt
I have kind of a nun thing. Wouldn’t they cater to that?
I doubt they allow porn into a catholic Hospital
~Matt
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