My wife, “Chrissy,” is 37. At a very early age it became apparent that she was a gifted athlete.
Years of stellar performance in running, cycling and swimming has elevated her to a high social status - and it has created a rift between us.
Chrissy has become unmanageable. She regards my influence, direction and discipline to be nothing more than a daily hindrance. Somewhere in the sports mania, I lost control as a hunsband, soul mate and friend.
As her only family (and support), I wonder how many other spouses are really aware of the crushing burden and peer pressure these triathletes experience in the quest for athletic perfection.
I have and always will support my wife’s goals, but I see a disassociation with reality while she revels in her status. Life is all about her. We have lost all our friends, my credit card bills are boiling over from equipment purchases and she sleeps with her pull buoy between her legs.
Is my issue unique? Do you have any advice for me?
Why don’t you talk to her about it. Communication is always the first step. “Brenda, I am really proud of your athletic accomplishments over the years, but sometimes I feel as if you are paying a disproportionate amount of attention to your own personal success, and not enough attention to our relationship. I just want you to know that I do support you, and understand how hard it is to do what you do, but relationships require the same amount of work to be a success”
My wife, "Chrissy," is 37. At a very early age it became apparent that she was a gifted athlete.
Years of stellar performance in running, cycling and swimming has elevated her to a high social status - and it has created a rift between us. Brenda has become unmanageable. She regards my influence, direction and discipline to be nothing more than a daily hindrance. Somewhere in the sports mania, I lost control as a hunsband, soul mate and friend.
As her only family (and support), I wonder how many other spouses are really aware of the crushing burden and peer pressure these triathletes experience in the quest for athletic perfection.
I have and always will support my wife’s goals, but I see a disassociation with reality while she revels in her status. Life is all about her. We have lost all our friends, my credit card bills are boiling over from equipment purchases and she sleeps with her pull buoy between her legs.
Is my issue unique? Do you have any advice for me?
Triathlon Husband Down South
Fung Shuay
is it “Chrissy” or Brenda? Just wondering if you kind of goofed up here?
Actually my advice would be to not ask for marital advice on ST, but what do I know.
My wife, “Chrissy,” is 37. At a very early age it became apparent that she was a gifted athlete.
Years of stellar performance in running, cycling and swimming has elevated her to a high social status - and it has created a rift between us.
Brenda has become unmanageable. She regards my influence, direction and discipline to be nothing more than a daily hindrance. Somewhere in the sports mania, I lost control as a hunsband, soul mate and friend.
As her only family (and support), I wonder how many other spouses are really aware of the crushing burden and peer pressure these triathletes experience in the quest for athletic perfection.
I have and always will support my wife’s goals, but I see a disassociation with reality while she revels in her status. Life is all about her. We have lost all our friends, my credit card bills are boiling over from equipment purchases and she sleeps with her pull buoy between her legs.
Is my issue unique? Do you have any advice for me?
Oops, god, hope she doesn’t see that…could be really embarassing. Brenda is my office assistant. ;-(
And editing the name really helped, since it’s already quoted in two other posts…
My wife, “Chrissy,” is 37. At a very early age it became apparent that she was a gifted athlete.
Years of stellar performance in running, cycling and swimming has elevated her to a high social status - and it has created a rift between us.
Chrissy has become unmanageable. She regards my influence, direction and discipline to be nothing more than a daily hindrance. Somewhere in the sports mania, I lost control as a hunsband, soul mate and friend.
As her only family (and support), I wonder how many other spouses are really aware of the crushing burden and peer pressure these triathletes experience in the quest for athletic perfection.
I have and always will support my wife’s goals, but I see a disassociation with reality while she revels in her status. Life is all about her. We have lost all our friends, my credit card bills are boiling over from equipment purchases and she sleeps with her pull buoy between her legs.
Is my issue unique? Do you have any advice for me?
Triathlon Husband Down South
Fung Shuay
It’s not a problem unless she is wearing paddles when she . . . oh never mind.
Your first problem was falling in love. I like to use relationships to my advantage, I pick a girl who likes to run and has a faster 10k time than I do. This way when we run together she can push me to be faster.
Secondly, I don’t want her to be able to swim. This allows me to be the better swimmer (naturally) and I can use her to practice my coaching.
Lastly, when she dumps me because the only time we have together is running and I don’t answer her calls etc. I use that frustration for being dumped to fuel my training.
Of course you’re screwed if this was Chrissy’s plan with you.
If she’s a side sleeper the pull buoy might be for leg support. They make a memory foam thingy that looks like a pull buoy for side sleepers.
You sound like a “triathlon widower”. IMO this is not the best place to get advice, since many of us have created triathlon widows. Anyone who’s ever heard “Sometimes I think you love that bike more than you love me” raise your hand.
The best advice I can give (and remember I said this was a lousy place to get advice) is to realize how important racing/training is to her, but also help her to realize that your marriage also needs time and dedication to stay in good shape. Also, tris can be a very expensive hobby, like anything else, set a budget. The super expensive stuff isn’t much faster than the moderate priced stuff. Good luck.
My wife, “Chrissy,” is 37. At a very early age it became apparent that she was a gifted athlete.
Years of stellar performance in running, cycling and swimming has elevated her to a high social status - and it has created a rift between us.
Chrissy has become unmanageable. She regards my influence, direction and discipline to be nothing more than a daily hindrance. Somewhere in the sports mania, I lost control as a hunsband, soul mate and friend.
As her only family (and support), I wonder how many other spouses are really aware of the crushing burden and peer pressure these triathletes experience in the quest for athletic perfection.
I have and always will support my wife’s goals, but I see a disassociation with reality while she revels in her status. Life is all about her. We have lost all our friends, my credit card bills are boiling over from equipment purchases and she sleeps with her pull buoy between her legs.
Is my issue unique? Do you have any advice for me?
