What is that rule about how long it takes to get over a relationship? Is it one day or one week for every month? I just came out of an 18 month relationship, a new PR for me, with someone that I don’t think is capable of being happy. I’d like to think I did everything I could to try and make her happy but to no avail. I have spent the last week searching for an answer of why it didn’t work. I could have done a few things differently, but she just couldn’t or didn’t want to communicate at the end about what we could do to fix it.
Are there people unable to be happy or am I just trying to avoid some responsibility?
What is that rule about how long it takes to get over a relationship? Is it one day or one week for every month?
I got no clue on this. Mine left last febuaury (04) and I realized I hadn’t taken down the pictures of her yet. And I still don’t want to.
I know quite a few people that are unable to be happy. Its almost like the try to find something to be depressed about. These are the people that always find something to complain about. I have two friends that though “marriage” would make them happy…but alais, no, they are still miserable. (Note: they are both EXTREMELY over wieght and have lots of “self image” issues too). So yes, there are people like that and no it doesn’t sound like a lack of responsibility.
So, how long does it take to get over a relationship? Depends on how drunk you are and how hot your rebound chick is!!!
In all honesty, if your are still quetsioning whether you could have done anything else in the relationship to make it better, your not ready to be over it yet. Once your ok with everything that happened, decide its a lesson learn and accept that…sometimes i just doesn’t work out…then you’ll be ready for the hot rebound chick!!! The slutter the better 
-bcreager
remember that song by ‘The Pursuit of Happiness’ called ‘I’m an Adult Now’
‘no more Boy meets Girl , Boy loses Girl, more like ’ man tries to understand what the hell went wrong’
I love that song.
When women get unhappy with a relationship, they withdraw and stop talking. They stop fighting. If you aint’ fighting once in a while, watch out.
you might never figure it out man don’t worry about it. my last wife decided she was gay. at least that was easy to understand. I was lucky:-)
sometimes chemistry just isn’t there. Did you have common intrests? enjoy spending time together doing nothing?
I think a lot of it is having fun together. I’ve been with my fiancee for 6 years now, and it’s more fun now then in the beginning.
How old are you? Was it “true love”?
When I was in high school, I dated a girl for my junior and senior year. (She was a grade below and two years my junior). I knew there was no way that I was going to be able to date her after I went to college, so WE made the decission to “break-up” after I left. I was still involved with her for two years after that (even though we dated others) and during that time she broke my heart a couple dozen times. 15 years later, 35 years old, married for 9 years with 3 kids, I still think “What if?” or I wonder how she is.
Moral of the story… I don’t think a “True Love” ever dies.
. . . and you hope your wife doesn’t read Slowtwitch.
Be thankful for the 18 months and move on. There are some people out there who are incapable of being happy. I wish I could tell you what to do about them or how to identify them but some of those people I have known have absolutely shocked me. Both males and females who were married to absolutely the nicest person with wonderful kids a great job and supportive family and friends. They never could realize how truly wonderful their life was. They always looked for the dark side just so they wouldn’t be dissapointed when bad things happened. However, all that attitude did was blind them to the good times they were having.
As for recovery i recommend finding a nice girl at your next race and try to max your HRM in her bed.
I agree with you 100% Love never ever fades…ever. You can marry, have kids and live another lifetime with no contact…but love will never ever go away…
Wife read ST…well, you think that there is not someone in her past that she does not think about twice a year in some odd instance of rememberance? Sure, these are the secrets you dont tell to the person you tell all your sectrets too…that is part of life.
I’m 28 and I thought so. I had actually set aside part of my bonus this year for a ring, but I think that may have to be spent on something Titanium and fast now.
Josh
“What is that rule about how long it takes to get over a relationship?”
More than one highly paid professional has told me it is half the length of the relationship. YMMV.
“Are there people unable to be happy or am I just trying to avoid some responsibility?”
I think so. If you want a reality check for yourself, go buy a couple of hours with a pro and talk it out. Sometimes a little guided introspection is more efficient than doing it yourself. (Conventional wisdom says there is fault on both sides in a breakup. In truth sometimes it really is onesided.)
Good luck