I’m with you, this topic drives me NUTS (pun intended). I realize that there are people who have legitimate allergies, and they need to take precautions. But I think there are degrees to these things. If an allergist tests a kid and finds a violent allergy, they will tell you. But so often, a kid will have a mild reaction and the parent will go completely insane about it.
The idea of making schools “peanut-free” just seemed so overbearing. My wife and I have always packed lunches for the kids. My two boys have taken peanut butter sandwiches. Yet, in our old school district, we were made to feel like criminals because we would dare to send peanut butter in their lunch bags.
The conversation was like this:
School-“It is such a small thing for us to ask you that you not send peanut butter? Little Johnny has a peanut allergy and his mother says he can’t even smell a peanut or he might die.”
Me-“Oh, really. Has this allergy been confirmed by an allergist.”
School-“Well, we’re not sure.”
Me-“So you expect me to have to change what I feed my kids for lunch because of Johnny’s alleged allergies.”
School-“You have other options. We have plenty of choices in our cafeteria for your children.”
Me-“Listen, I don’t qualify for free or reduced lunches, but I’m not rich either. Your lunches are not really cheap at $2.75/day. I can feed a peanut butter and jelly with a banana or an apple every day to both of my kids for less than a dollar. Plus, we are strict vegetarians, and your meatless options are lackluster, unsatisfying, and they are prepared right along with the meat. I’ll tell you what. You begin preparing a meatless menu separate from the standard menu, with as many options, and I will happily cease sending peanut butter and jelly sandwiches with my kids for lunch. How does that sound?”
School-“Uh, I’m not sure that will work.”
Me-“Why?”
School-“We just don’t have that many students who would eat off of that menu to justify the cost.”
Me-“Have you asked? Do you know that for sure?”
School-“Well, no we haven’t asked. But so far there are only 2 students who have requested this.”
Me-“To my knowledge there is only 1 student who has requested that there be no peanut butter. Yet you seem to feel perfectly comfortable asking for everyone to bear that inconvenience, and without very much evidence in my opinion. I’ll tell you what, my offer stands. You provide an equal vegetarian menu and the peanut butter stays home. If you want to try and force the issue, you had better come prepared with something better than ‘Johnny’s mom said…’”
What a pain in the ass. Nothing ever came of it and I kept sending PB&J with the boys. To my knowledge, Johhny survived somehow.
Bernie
You are awesome. Seriously, way to keep it real. I could not imagine why a school would think they have the right to tell parent’s what they can feed their kids for lunch.