what are other people’s experiences like with this? i think i’m just about ready to give up
Hang in there… I can’t speak for myself since I am still single but internet has worked for 2 of my close friends. i personnally think it’s a hit or miss. you probably will find as many people with a good experience as not… I guess it’s when you stopping trying that things happen. For me , when i have “I couldn’t careless” written on my forehead, it pours… go figure! we should post your intermnet profile on here and have people here find you a date!!!
Seems to me that it is fun for a while. But it can be a waste of time as well. I find moderation to be the key.
i’m in new zealand…so doubt if that would work.
"i’m in new zealand…so doubt if that would work. "
oups… I forgot about that one… my closest friend to you lives in perth, australia. unless others tri chicks from NZ post here…
"Seems to me that it is fun for a while. But it can be a waste of time as well. I find moderation to be the key. "
yeah… no time to waste when training for IM! You are doing AZ next year right?
My experience…sucks…but I guess it all depends on where youre at…here in WI…ive had nothing good.
But then I again…if your not at the bars how do meet someone in WI??? <<<<my question,im still looking
I say hang in there as well. I was just about to give up and sure enough the next date I went on was amazing. So amazing that she is now living with me and I could not be happier. You just have to look at it as another avenue to find the right one. I am not going to go to a bar and I knew exactly what I wanted in a woman. Online gives you the option to find what you are looking for without the crap.
It does have it drawbacks but for the most part I found it better than the options.
You have to love a woman that bring up M&M cookies to you while you are on Slowtwitch and says " oh are you still figuring out what you want to upgrade on your tri bike and road bike" Yep a keeper for sure.
They have the internet in New Zealand?
yes they do…but the dating sites seem to suck. girls are all talk etc.
"My experience…sucks…but I guess it all depends on where youre at…here in WI…ive had nothing good. "
I used to race in wisconsin… I don’t know about the dating scene… But i lived in Iowa and that was actually good, well I was in college and that’s always good. But the midwest in general is tougher I think. At least for me. i am a bit different than most… you know… being french canadian. But what’s funny is that after going on a few dates this month, i got tired of dating…
that’s THIS week:-)
yes they do…but the dating sites seem to suck. girls are all talk etc.
They have girls in New Zealand?!
Found my girl on the Internet. It gave me a chance to meet someone while getting ready for longer races. She knew going into the relatinship what I am all about. She’s been patient with me through races of all different lengths up to and soon to be including im distance. She wants me to cool things off once I’ve done an im distance race. She deserves it.
The thing is, with the internet, you’ll still be hard-pressed to find someone who has triathlon among their list of activities. I found someone who had SOMETHING in common with me at least, we’re of the same religion. It may not be a whole lot, but it was a start and we’ve been together almost 1 1/2 yrs.
Give it a shot. Worst thing that can happen is that you have a bad meal with someone. Whatever you do, if she’s not into triathlon (I know this one from experience) Don’t take her on a 70 mile bike ride on the first date. She’ll probably get pissed at you, or worse, she’ll be faster.
Mohole15
Marisol,
Being a French Canadian in the US is probably tough as well. Not too sure if they will get the French Canadian jokes or the accent. I found that Lavalife actually worked as longs as you know that half the people on there lie about their age and body. I was very lucky to find a great woman that was into fitness and was willing to go out for mountain bike rides (well after I bought her a mountain bike). You should see the bruising from the crash she took on the weekend. Huge crash and burn. She is sore today but damn she was a trooper and wants to go back again. I guess some get lucky (pun intended) and some do not on there. From what I have seen on the other thread, if you can not get a date then there is something very wrong with the guys in your area.
"I used to race in wisconsin… I don’t know about the dating scene… But i lived in Iowa and that was actually good, well I was in college and that’s always good. But the midwest in general is tougher I think. At least for me. i am a bit different than most… you know… being french canadian. But what’s funny is that after going on a few dates this month, i got tired of dating…
that’s THIS week:-)
Living in Iowa, from my experience, is NOT good…oh i wish I would meet some women that I would even want to meet…much less date…
and this is your week in a nutshell???..i wish…
I’ve heard good outcomes also…(whether it was marriage, long-term relationships, etc… In fact, a couple of friends of mine just got engaged)
I gave it a try for about 6 months. Met a few interesting people…(good, bad, and down-right bizarre)… For me, it was too much of an effort to keep up on the emails. I guess that’s what happens when you’re an athlete with massive obsessive compulsive disorder… trying to keep a balance of rest, training, work, racing.
I’ll tell you what was funny though… I would secretly view a buddy of mine and send him emails… he thought I was some hot babe trying to talk to him…(ha ha ha…) That was freakin hilarious…he would tell me all about “her” … oh well, guess you had to be there…
I ended up just cancelling the on-line thing… not tryin hard to meet anyone… and low and behold, I fell in love with my girlfriend without the help of on-line stuff…I met her at work!!!
Ive had great sucess with online dating, as long as both parties are honest and dont LIE.
Thats where I draw the line, ive dated some online girls that where still married and i didnt want to get involved after that. Honesty is the key to a sucessfull relationship anything other than that will compromise the bond that secures each other.
If one cant be upfront and honest with me then i wont have any thing to do with them, thats rule number 1, an unbreakable rule.
Dan
Yeah well basically I only use the net at work. I already post on about 4 other messageboards relating to things i am interested in.
Triathlon - this one
Punk/hardcore - a nz punk site
My job - A messageboard for young professionals in same profession as me
internet dating crap - nz’s biggest internet dating site.
As it is, I am doing this all at work. I can’t really be assed actively ‘searching’ for someone’s profile who I might find ‘interesting’. I could spend a bit of time on the messageboards but that seems to be too much hardwork. I’ve met a few girls off internet dating sites. 2 of them I met down at the local pub withouth having arranged to meet them. They both recognised me. Got the phone number of one, ph number turned out to be fake.
Met 1 girl who was a solo mum who proceeded to ask me how much I earnt and that she’d fuck people for cash. She had previously worked as a stripper and hooker. So forget about her.
Met another girl after I managed to work her into a frenzy via text phone. Meh suited me for the night but I wouldn’t go back there.
Arranged to meet 2 girls (at different times) who both proceeded to fall of the face of planet earth. This seems to be a common thing with the online dating thing.
Met another girl, who seemed keen, then changed her mind. She got drunk online one night and declared to me how much she liked bondage. She was alright looking but as she told me ‘she wasn’t good at shcool.’
So yeah, basically I can’t really be assed anymore.
in mine and other’s experience many women online don’t seem to know what the hell they want, and lie to themselves and to you.
I would say that is not restricted to the online scene (although it might exacerbate it), and I imagine women would say the same about the men.