alright here is my situation. It is actually my parents that want to visit every single month. My wife says that visiting every single month is too much as her family lives in the same city as we do and do not visit that much.
The reason for wanting to visit so much is to visit with the grandson as well. I do not get along very well with my parents so what would you say to them to get it too maybe once every 2 months or less.
This is becoming a stresser with me and the little lady.
Once a month is too much. The house belongs to you and your wife. If you’re not comfortable with what’s going on in your house, you should change it.
I know it won’t be a good conversation, but you need to let your parents know to give you some space.
In some cultures you would all live under the same roof. Count your blessings. 
Unless there are wierd circumstances, I can’t see how it is a bad thing for grandparents to want to visit their grandkid. But then again they are not visiting me once a month, so who am I to say?
So would you suggest a taller fence? Or would a moat be too extreme of a measure to succesfully implement?
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Too much? My mother in law lives about 50 yards away in the other house. Try a visit everyday at least. Pretty much everytime the 2 year old gets outside it’s “NANA’S HOUSE!”…he knows she has all the goods. M&M’s, Cookies, marshmellow’s, you name it.
I have to say I’m glad I get along with her as it would REALLY suck if I didn’t.
I laugh at your once a month!
How about trying to figure out why you don’t get along with your parents and figure out how to enjoy the time they have with you. Once a month is really no big deal and Grandparents ROCK as far as kids are concerned. MY kid loves his Nana to death.
~Matt
Oh and suggestion…
If you REALLY can’t get around not liking your parents, why not take advantage of the situation? Apparently they did a half decent job and got you to adult hood. Maybe let them watch the kid and you and the Mrs’s go out for some together time. Might actually make you look forward to them coming over. Besides they probably would enjoy taking care of the little squirt for a couple of hours.
~Matt
Matt. The issue is that my parents fight all the time when they are around and are not good with my son. Yes they did a great job with me and I love them to bits but they are very hard to be around. Also when they visit, it is for the whole weekend and not just for an hour or so.
There are only a few people that we trust with our son and my wife is not very comfortable with them looking after our son.
Anyways, it is a tough call as we have said to them on countless times that they can visit but once a month is too much. They just keep bitching about it and tell us they are coming over. It is like talking to a brick wall. My wife even suggested that she would go there for the day to visit them. It is a trek of around 3 hours each way and they said no to that. Go figure.
Your parents should be able to visit the kid, but every month is a bit too much. If you and your wife aren’t comfortable with it then you need to draw the line—especially if you don’t feel comfortable leaving your kid with them.
Do they stay at the house or get a Hotel. If there are no extra beds at the house, it becomes more difficult for them to stay there.
How about you guys not being home when they get there? I know it is rude and would ruffle even more feathers, but why not just take the extreme measure and be gone the weekend they were coming? Or at least when they call to say that they are coming over tell them that you are out of town and perhaps you could coordinate schedules for next month.
My wife and I are so busy we plan dinner with friends about 2 months out. Every weekend is something and being unavailable is a fact of life. If you have a busy schedule use it to your advantage in this case.
Good luck,
Josh
My parents live about 8000 miles away and I’d love to have them here once a month as would their new grand daughter.
Now my in-laws live 5 hours away and they are very frequent visitors and vice versa. Luckily we all get along very well, but if the visits were uncomfortable then I’d definitely say once a month is a bit much especially if they are staing for the weekend…coming over for dinner is OK.
I have a good friend whose mother pretty much cut her off for 20 years. Even when she visited for holidays her mother ignored her other than to share basic pleasantries. She never visited, and even left her wedding early. All of a sudden when the grandson arrived mom is knocking on her door twice a week wanting to visit. She eventually had to sit her mom down and tell her that she’d not be allowed to see her grandson again until they sorted out their own issues. That is still ongoing.
It is a tough one to sort out. My wifes family lives in town and only come by for holidays and once in a while which is nice as my wife and I only get family time on the weekends and we really like that time. I have even gone as far as trying to get my parents to hook up with uses on Webcam once a week to see their grandson since the trip is a long one for everyone.
It is one of those things that after about 3 hours, my wife and I have had enough. They come over and stay at the house. They do not want to do anything other than hang out and go out for food. The other issue is my mom is a smoker and I hate the smell in my house and worst of all when she is holding my son and that smell transfers over.
I grew up in a house where everyone in the family smoked except for me. I mean everyone. I have never touched a smoke in my life nor drugs. So when that smell is in my house it is too much.
Ha ha ha.
My mom is a smoker too and I make her stand outside in the yard.
A strict NO SMOKING policy in my house. and no extra beds.
Reminds me of an “Everybody Loves Raymond” episode.
He is talking to his wife about where it is safe to live in relation to his parents. He points to a map and says too close is not good because they will stop by without notice all of the time. Too far is not good because they will come and stay over. The ideal is a couple of hour drive away…they have to call ahead and they will drive home and sleep at their own house.