I'll never know how this feels

My 12-year-old daughter Katie has been a competitive swimmer for 2 years. She’s built for power, and excels in short distance events. Butterfly and breast stroke are her favorites. She is definitely not a runner. She refers to the mile run in PE at school as a “death march.”

I’m strictly a recreational age-grouper in triathlon, usually finishing well into the second half of my wave. Katie came with me to packet pickup for Boulder Peak (Colorado), and got caught up in the festive atmosphere. They also had cool swim stuff at the expo. A few weeks later, she announced to our complete surprise that she wanted to do a Kids Triathlon. There was one coming up in Boulder, and another one a week later in Fort Collins. Kids Tris are short enough that most reasonably fit kids could do them. So we entered her in the Boulder Kids Tri, but I cautioned her that unlike her swimming experience, this was not an event she was likely to win.

To my surprise, she was not even near the front on the swim leg. Middle-of-the-pack, but she came out of the water with a competitieve look on her face. She even passed a few kids on the bike, which is surprising because they were kids who’d beaten her in the swim. She held up well enough on the run, and finished exhausted but satisfied. They don’t keep times or places in Kids’ Tris, but she’d enjoyed the competition aspect. Still, she had no desire to EVER do such an event again.

A few days later though, she decided to enter the Fort Collins Kids Tri after all, even though the distances were longer. She figured that without all those fast Boulder kids, she might finish a little higher up. She’s not a triathlete or even an endurance athlete by nature, but she’s definitely up for a little competition.

Once again, a number of kids in her age group beat her in the swim. This is rare for her, as she’s an excellent club and school swimmer. Who ARE these kids? It was cold and rainy that morning, but she was smiling as she left T1 and headed out onto the bike course. Later, when the PA announced that the first cyclist was approaching T2, we were stunned by what we saw: Katie, all alone, in first place. The course marshalls had to direct her, there was no long line of people to follow. I’ll never know how this feels. I can only imagine. I resisted the urge to tell her to run for her life. “Go, Katie!” said it all.

She held on for third, and had a laughing, giddy time at the post-race festivities. I should also mention that this was my first time as a race volunteer, and I was inspired by the energy and enthusiasm of the race directors and the money raised for the Childrens Hospital.

…you and me both…

Awesome story…thanks for sharing!

Makes me proud just reading about it and she’s not even my daughter.

Great story, thanks. And I think I can say this for most of the parents on here, I would actually enjoy seeing my son/daughter come into T2 first more than doing it myself.

Awesome story!

I have a 12 year old daughter too,and she’s turning out to be quite the soccer player.
She’s entering her 1st Kids Tri in a few weeks so I’ll have her read your post.Thanks for sharing!

Excellent story. That competitive spirit will serve her very well in life. I love to see it in girls.

Aren’t kids annoying? I entered my hockey/basketball playing 11yo son in what I thought was a 5k. When we got there it turned out to be a 5-mile. He was like - “whatever”. Well the race started 502 runners. By the time I got to the finish and took up a seat under a tree - it couldn’t be? Sure as shit there he was coming towards the finish line. Finished second in U-14 AG and 106th overall with a 38 minute time. I’m glad I didn’t run - luckily I had my 4yo with me - I wouldn’t be able to stand the shame.

Nice story. My 26-year old daughter does tris with me and when I see her on the run or bike I always tell her “Proud of you” or
“Luv ya,” and I really mean it. It’s nice to share the tri experience with one of your kids.

Roger that, Digger. Me too.

Congrats to her.

Only once did I have a similar thing happen to me. In my previous age group (30-35) it seemed we were always first off at a particular race. I suck in the water, so there are gobs and gobs of cyclists in front of me. I had a pretty good ride at this race, and when I got back to the transition area I was confused - I could not see any other bikes. I stopped, stunned and dazed and asked a race official if I might have somehow gone to the wrong transition area/didn’t know there were others.

He laughed and said “NO, YOU’RE IN FIRST PLACE!”

You could have knocked me over with a feather.

Although I am not a parent and most likely never will be at this age (54), I am continually inspired by the activities of my friends/fellow competitors offspring. It gives one great hope/vision for the future.

Unfortunately, many of these young whipper snappers kick my ass these days (no respect for their elders?) but I always try to offer encouragement as they go by or, on good day, I cruise by them.

I once did a race where 3 generations of the same family competed and they were all women! How cool is that? By the way, they were all on the podium as well.

“You know you are getting old when you see your father in the mirror.” anon.

Yes Digger, me too. 30+ years ago I was a cross country and track runner in high school. Nothing about those memories exceeds the misty-eyed feeling I get watching my kids excel, whether it’s sports or – more importantly – academics.

wow, great story! Yea for competitive girls!

this is the kind of story that makes me want to be a parent. AWESOME!!! i don’t even know you, but i’m teary eyed just reading it. thanks for the great story!

But I know how it feels to watch your child strive for something and then do well. My daughter was 10 last year and did a kids tri. Like yours she’s a competitve club swimmer. As she came out of the water she was smiling. Some larger boy shoved her down (boy is everyone competitive). She never stopped smiling. That’s what it’s all about. Later that year she did a super sprint, 400 yard swim, 8 mile bike and 2 mile run. I was a swim angel at the race and they let me swim with her. She was 10 at the time and it was absolutely amazing that she did it. She even got to meet Michelle Jones (sp) at the race. This year she has talked several friends into doing it and along the way I’ve gotten some of the parents to enter races too! Gives you hope for the world.

John

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Congratulations on living a healthy lifestyle and (more congratulations for) passing it onto your children. Our children do what we do, not just what we say to do and avoid what we say not to do. They are our shadows, and you’re doing yourself proud. Good for your daughter for not quitting when she was “not winning” something that she normally wins. Some people would credit sports for “building this character”. I know better. Sports reveal character, parents and family contribute to building character. Just so you don’t risk a torn rotator cuff patting yourself on the back, I’ll continue to do it for you.

Today’s girls are certainly “not what they used to be”. Pretty, smart, hard working, and just downright, good old fashioned tough. I’m raising one too.


They don’t keep times or places in Kids’ Tris

Do the kids wear stop watches? Do their parents? Do the kids have any idea of their placing? Whether they did well or not?

I ask becuase I am involved in kids sports also … even T-Ball where they don’t ahem keep score. Well, until one kid yells out “C’MON TEAM!!! WE’RE LOSING 8-5!!!” It’s not usually surprising as each team generally has a feeling of who is winning and who is losing.

Anyway, kids usually have a pretty good BS meter, and can often tell when they are doing well, when they are not, when they are being legitimately complimented, and when they are being patronized. Do the kids “keep track” of how well they do?

Perhaps, I am looking at this from the wrong perspective. Perhaps times andplacing are not kept … not so the kids will not get too competitive, but to prevent the parents from getting too competitive (like hockey, soccer, baseball, football, tennis, skating, well … just about anything that involves kids, sports, parents, and score).

I don’t know what I’m going to do when my kids become old enough to achieve these kind of things. Now, they’re only 1 and 3, but every little thing they do fills me with such admiration.

Why just last week, our three year old boy managed to cram an entire packet of Pez into his mouth at once…you can just imagine the overwhelming sense of pride I felt at that moment…

There’s lots of places he could have put a whole pack of PEZ … you should be proud he selected his “mouth”.

My young cousin Tyler had an “M&M and nostril ER experience” that’s pretty funny.

I loved your story.

I can imagine your awe, excitiment and pride as it became apparent that Katie was the cyclist coming into view.

It is great that she had fun. That should always be what it’s all about. Even if training for the olympics or as a pro, it should still – on many levels – still be fun.

Yup, we’ve done the nostril thing as well…it was the time he wanted to “smell” a coffee bean…it wasn’t pretty!!