Bill: As I said previously, I enjoyed living in Dayton. For a city that’s not too big, I always found plenty to do. I’ll give you a list of the types of things I liked to do (which seem similar to the types of things you and your wife like to do):
Concerts: Dayton usually gets pretty good concerts, primarily at the Nutter Center (which is at Wright State University). It’s been my understanding that Dayton has a good reputation for selling out concerts and having rabid fans, especially for rock and country. Accordingly, Dayton attracts bigger acts than its size might otherwise warrant. I prefer rock, and have seen dozens of groups, including Neil Young, ZZ Top, Gordon Lightfoot, George Thorogood, The Black Crowes, and Aerosmith. You also have the option of going to Columbus or Cincinnati, about an hour, to see even more groups.
Sports: A GREAT place to watch baseball is at Fifth Third Field, home of the Dayton Dragons, a minor league team of the Reds. It’s a brand new, fantastic facility. You also have, of course, the teams in Cincinnati and Columbus. In baseball, Dayton is a Reds’ town, but in football, it’s split between the Bengals and Browns.
Books: Dayton is home to great bookstores, especially Books & Company. Also, there are lots of libraries.
Museums: Dayton has the Dayton Art Institute, which is pretty nice. Just this fall my wife and I went there for a three-part show: Ansel Adams photography, Tiffany glass, and Monet paintings. (This one I went for my wife, but enjoyed more than I expected.) You also have pretty good museums in Cincinnati.
For a city its size, Dayton has nice specialty shops (e.g., Arrow Wine), and one of the more unique grocery stores in the country (Dorothy Lane Market).
So … if you’re looking for things to do, I don’t think Dayton will disappoint. I can’t help too much on where to live if you’re looking for space, but I’m sure the outer suburbs would accomodate you just fine.
John