**are there some clues that men give, so the woman would know to think, “hey this guy is scary fucking crazy, get outta here!”? **
If you are dating a guy watch how he treats his Mother, people who serve like waiters and waitresses and animals. If he treats any or all of them poorly he is potential trouble.
Also, talk to him about ex-girlfriends and see if he gets angry. That’s also a red flag.
That or someone who drives a van…especially if there is a sign "If this van’s rockin, don’t bother knockin…
From what I’ve read, those guys seek out the victim personality. If you aren’t that type, you’ll likely be passed over. Put yourself in the kill zone and these types will pick up on it. Criminals are opportunists. They look for the unlocked door, someone sloppy with their locker, or someone who can easily be taken advantage of. Always have a plan as to what you’ll do if confronted with weirdness. You know, just like the LR…
Did i read it right that she met a stranger at a July 4th celebration and invited him home. I’m not blaming her as a victim, clearly he is disturbed, but that is probably not the safest way to meet someone. Maybe meet them through friends/work/social clubs. Meet them for safe dates before they ever know where you live.
I’d also suggest staying away from guys that are too smooth and bigger than life. Also, how they treat other people and women is also a good thing to watch. Do they become too attached too soon? Are they posessive? I know one couples whose daughter was killed by a boyfriend who could just not accept she was breaking up with him. Their relationship when too far to fast and he didn’t want to lose that.
Check his T-shirts and underwear…If they’re super clean and white, that may be a clue? Does he always smell like the pool and he doesn’t even swim? Does he have really, really, really blonde hair?
I think there are many things that you can look for and do. First and fore most, as has already been stated, not going home with or taking home complete strangers is a good start. I mean if you really have to do that, at least bring a couple friends along to be with you, at least in the same house.
Now that being said it’s really all about being aware of behavior. Don’t get sucked into the “Magic” of it all, very hard to do, and watch all the behaviors. Don’t let your emotions over ride your head and miss out on obvious signs, many already posted here.
I don’t know how many articles I’ve read about women who said something like “I had no idea”, yet everyone around them said “The dude was a complete creep”.
I think another thing that helps is self confidence. People like that seek out individuals that can be “victimized”. How often have we asked the question of “Why in the world would a women return to man that beats her?”, yet it happens on a daily basis. Killers, abusers, molesters seek out individuals that they know they are most likely to have success with. Work on not being one of those individuals.
That’s excellent. My husband says he pities any man that tries to beat me up, but regardless of how mean and fit I am, an womens could still get nabbed and terrorized.
Get Buster and Maddie on the case. My dog always notices creepers. She is not a bark-y dog, in fact she’s pretty chicken in general. But she picks out shady types and warns them right off the bat.
When you meet a guy (or girl) and immediately take them home, unless they happen to be carrying an axe and bleach, you don't know. It does not take a genius to figure this out.
If he goes into intricately-detailed conversations on the merits of Genesis, Huey Lewis or Whitney Houston - run.
. . . and please don’t overlook the occasional stuffing of a cat into the ATM types of behavior. That’s a dead giveaway. Also be weary of anyone that spontaneously needs to “return some videos.”