I’ve recently broken up with someone I dated for 2 years. This as you can imagine is causing alot of emotional stress and it shows in my everyday lifestyle. As it is very hard to cope with at the moment, I would just like to know how maybe some of you guys that have been in the same situation dealt with it. I know i’m only 20 and there are MANYMANYMANY other people out there for me to see, but
it just becomes too much at one point, in between training competing and just my general lifestyle I’m having lots of trouble accepting that shes not there for me anymore.
Anybody have anything to say that could help?
Go out and meet another man as soon as possible. Get back on that horse.
Even though I know that I will catch hell for this…
Go get drunk. Find another girl (preferably one that looks like your ex). Have wild drunken sex with her.
Wake up hung over, but with a smile. Move on.
Sorry, but this works. (You may repeat if necessary, but it is not recommended.)
Join a club or something. I’m going through a bit of a rough patch myself, that may or may not turn out okay (which was really throwing me off my mental game for IMWI in a month).
I’d say the only thing that kept/keeps me focused was the fact that I was getting out the door to train and hang out with other folks that have no real impact/significant interest in my personal life and I had a very short-sighted goal (finish the workout/race/etc.)
Sitting around moping has it’s place, but I’ve found that constant distraction is key. Having a super crazy busy job helps too, but as you’re only 20, I’m sure you’re messing around waiting for school to start up again.
Dude, I’ve gone through your situation too many times. Let me tell you, however, that each time it happened the next girl was MUCH better than the previous.
Just look at this past relationship (and put it in your past) as a stepping stone (a process) to a successful (happy & healthy) relationship to come in the future.
Try to appreciate this past relationship as a lesson and something you needed to prepare you for your next relationship…or the relationship after that or after that.
Stay busy, use your training as therapy, enjoy your friends and look forward to your next relationship which is right around the corner…enjoy YOURSELF!
YES, that too is an EXCELLENT band-aid…absolutely!
<< …enjoy YOURSELF! >>
Since his ex is outta the picture, “enjoying himself” is his only option for the moment. 
Get drunk, hook up, and have some meaningless sex.
works like a charm.
Just had the same thing happen a few weeks ago … it is really hard … I know how you feel. For me it was really hard to get back to training since it was something we shared and to be honest I sometimes I feel like I need to stop so that I can move on. It’s not the same to train and race and know that the person is not really there for you anymore … or atleast not the way you wish they were. Its hard to be a single triathlete … there isnt enough time in the day to really get out there and date. I try to tell myself that sometimes shit happens … sometimes love isnt enough … you can make someone love you. I mean maybe in the long run maybe she did you a favor … do you really want to be with someone that isnt happy with you?
For the record, I broke up with her, and also It just eats me up inside and i get jealous when my friends are like i saw your ex, she was hanging out with her friends and some dudes. Makes me want to bike over and drown them… !!!1
Write down the reasons your broke up with her and read them everytime you think about her…then do some push-ups too…
you broke up with her and now your sad … i think the obvious answer is ask her to come back!
We spoke abotu that, she called and then told me no. So last night I told her i was going out to Cheers for ladies night with all my friends. I think she kind of got pissed and jealous, but the whole thing was I tried to tell her how i felt
idiot…
no sympathy … if your going to break someones heart and then say oops sometimes that is the price you pay. maybe you will get lucky and she will change her mind over time.
I’m not looking for sympathy at all, and i do realize that i have to accept that we are no longer together, all i was looking for was to see how some people dealt with these situations.
Train and eat ice cream! 
you dont need advise … something told you to leave her … now that you did you feel lonely … it will pass and you will probably be dating someone new any day now
Strip Club and a hand full on $20’s.