I’m getting married on Saturday. I don’t post often enough to be recognized on this forum, but I thought I’d post it since I’m telling pretty much any person I see. I didn’t think I was getting nervous, but I woke up at 3:00 am this morning after getting less than four hours of sleep. I couldn’t fall back asleep so I went for a run at 4:15. I didn’t have to leave for work (I teach 6th grade) until 7:15 or so, so I put in a solid two hours. There’s nothing like running for 15 or 16 miles before 6:30 am. It kind of felt like I was getting up for a big race, but since there wasn’t a race to be rested for I was able to run.
Last weekend I had my “bachelor’s party.” A few friends and I put in an Ironman distance over a 24-hour period. It was a bit of a challenge at the end since I’m not really trained for it, but it seemed like a fun/interesting way to end my single life. Now I get to finish up my day at school and jump in a car to head down towards Hilton Head, SC where I’ll join the ranks of the married men around the world.
If you have any words of wisdom for a wedding or marriage, pass them on.
“Congratultions Frank, your about to make the biggest mistake of your entire life, get out now while you have the chance.”… “I’m a married man and look at me, do I look happy to you? See my wife over there? Always watching, always judging - Look at the baby, look at the baby.”
JK - go for it and congrats! I’m glad to see that I am not the only one that is doing Tri stuff for a batch party. We’re doing Boulder Peak OLY in July.
Congrats on the pending wedding! I know of you since I live in Wake county and know some of you elite guys by name to possibly catch a glimpse of you out on the course. Heck some of you even work at ISO sports.
As far as nerves -we all get nervous before the big day. Its a HUGE change no matter what anyone says, no matter how prepared you are. The best thing about being nervous is that it shows that you’re thinking about it and getting ready for it. I think that its great you went for a run and just let it be rather than obsess and stress. Just like a race.
I also like your idea of a bachelor party. Much better than the usual stuff. I am sure that your bride-to-be appreciates it as well.
Anyhow - welcome to the club! I know that you are not looking for reassurance but trust me everything will be wonderful once you get there. Hopefully you can ignore the posts which will be forthcoming from the jaded ones out there.
aaaahhh, i can remember being married. i’m still broke.
just remember, you can keep on driving and not stop until you hit the florida keys …
just kidding (no i’m not), no honestly … kidding (i’m not) …
Well, let me be the first to say congratulations to you man; you have one vagina for the rest of your life. Real smart man … it’s great though, true love is hard to find, sometimes you think you have true love and then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blindfolded like a goddamn magic show ready to double team your girlfriend …
best thing about it is, there’s no lack of material.
TomA, so you’re saying I shouldn’t walk into my house without checking who’s there first? If nothing else, at least you have an interesting story to tell people about your ex-wife!
To the others, yes, I am lucky and she is a great training partner and lunch date. We met when I started the UNC-Chapel Hill Triathlon Club five years ago. We used to have club swim practices and I was certain that everytime we did a flip turn in the deep end of the pool she was making eyes at me. Sure, she had on blue colored goggles, but I was convinced she was checking me out. Maybe that as because I was constantly looking at her. We’ve been steady swimming partners ever since. We also do a lot of our easy runs and rides together. Recently our favorite ride has been after our long run when we put in an easy hour or two on the bike, finishing up at a local ice cream store. Since I’m writing about some of our training together I’ll brag for a second. Jessie has been running really well recently, posting a few sub-20:30 5ks at the end of sprint triathlons. I’m just that lucky.
well, nerves are natural, let me tell you! I wasn’t nervous until my wedding day. then all of a sudden here i am in a church, in a puffy white dress with a jewled tiarra on my head, my fiance is in a tux and his brothers are too (trust me, his brothers in a tux–yeah, that’s crazy). honestly i felt like it was a scene from a mob movie! i almost passed out!! when it was time to say the vows i was on the verge of crying hysterically and i could hardly even squeak them out! my husband teases me about that to this day. good times. it’s supposed to be dramatic and I’m glad it was for me. enjoy it! it should only come once.
How long have you been dating? Have you seen her credit scores? What does her mother look like? Are you of the same religion/non-religion? What is the 5 year, 10 year, 25 year plan? Just a few questions that many seem to forget to ask before taking the plunge, especially if she looks really good in a thong and high heels…Good luck man, just know the Vegas odds are against marrige, unless you are a card counter…
Hey, Adampom, best of luck for your future, it sounds very much like you guys are winners. On which note, we won’t believe anything until we see pictures - so make sure we do get that proof, OK.
Kiss buh bye to training for a while…I’ve been married 7 months and the first month was opening gifts and writing thankyous, then it was a month of furniture shopping, then 4 months of looking for a new house and the last month has been painting and hanging drywall and putting up crown molding…I have about another 4-6 monts of projects lined up…then I’m sure she’ll find something else to keep me busy.
lol. this reminds me of a story. my husband and i used to go to fridays alot on friday, as a fun kickoff to the weekend. (close, decent drinks, cheap for happy hour). one time a nice man was watching the game with us and he asked us about being married. he said he wasn’t married anymore and that some women will work a man to death.
well, this summer my husband has done more projects (for me) then in the entire 7 years combined–a new patio, heavy gardening stuff, etc. so now he’s always saying, “some women will work a man to death” and it’s hysterical! then he’ll say, “after i finish my afternoon jobs, can i take a break before my nightime jobs?” this has me rolling everytime.
looks like she’s put you to good use…lol. furniture, dry wall…hahahaha! that’s awesome!!
Congrats! I will be celebrating my 20th anniversary in a few months. I highly recommend being married to the right person.
some one said it was like a race- make it a marathon. A long process with a big reward. Some days you got the legs and some days not so much but you just keep going
You have to be on the same page, have the same focus. And that focus is HER. She’s already there, she’s waitin’ for you to come aboard. Every morning you should wake up, look into the mirror and say fuck you, fuck your dreams, fuck your hopes, fuck everything you thought this life was gonna be about. Now let’s go out and try to make this bitch happy!
Good luck. My marriage is great but there are some days where that is how it feels.
