My daughter is on a pretty competitive swim team and they say if you don’t make the team when you are 8under it becomes very difficult as a 9/10 year old. Seems ridiculous. Lot of pressure on very young kids. I want her to play soccer( team sport, running around, etc,) as well as swim but her travel soccer schedule conflicts with swimming Forget about school and everything else that is so much more important.
It appears that these kids have to make a decision at a very young age on One sport.
Even with soccer. My take is the very best are 1) very well off, and 2) have success-driven parents.
The question I have is, how many Olympians started off poor, and with parents who were not Type A “driver” personalities who pushed their kid to the highest levels possible.
I am going through this with my 14-year old son now. Will he do triathlon for fun or for competition? Will we make the time and money available to go to national-level qualifying races to give him an opportunity to get to the Elite level? If we do, will he succeed? If he does, will his success get noticed?
The way I reason it out, if we do go to some regional and national level qualifying races, if he does succeed to a moderate level, but he does not make the elite level, and does not become an Olympian, we are OK with that. He has found a sport and has had fun doing races for something he can do the rest of his life.
Phelps was never poor but his Dad was/is a state trooper or police officer and think his Mom is a middle school principal, so certainly not what most would consider “well off”. In swimming you need some amount of money to pay the monthly fee to be on your local team, but I swam with lots of guys/girls whose parents were blue-collar workers. Not poor but certainly far from rich.
As for motivation, the parents can push but ultimately the kid must have it himself.
In any case, agree 100% on your final conclusion, as that is how it works out for most of us. Only around 1/100,000 can become truly “elite” in any sport.