I have a Facebook account and have friends, co-workers, family, and some acquaintances on it.
Maybe it is just me being too sensitive but have you ever sent a “Friend Request” for someone who you thought was a friend and they never confirmed you as a “Friend”?
Probably taking it too personally, but now Facebook has created a somewhat awkward situation: The next time I see them or run into them, should I not even bother to say “hi” and just blow them off?
Guess the real truth comes out whether a person considers you to be their friend or not. I might quit Facebook because I’m not a frequent user of it and because the whole “Friends” thing does not mean much. Real friends know who they are and don’t need Facebook to validate it.
Just tell them you’re on it to see chicks or dudes… or both…
I ignore a lot of stuff on Facebook, including Friend Requests. If they take it personally, just look them in the eye and say, “Dude, it’s just Facebook.” There are more important things in life.
It is me taking it personally of people who I thought were friends that never confirm the request. I’ll take your advice “Dude, it’s just Facebook” but at the same time, it does make me think twice of who I’d want to hang out with or consider a “real friend”.
A lot of people in Facebook frequent it very little.
I had felt the same about some people, only to find out that they had been pretty busy. I also took it personally that some people wouldn’t respond to a message I sent, but then I realized that I never saw any activity coming from them on FB.
Most people aren’t the internet chat geeks that slowtwitchers are.
Ignoring friend requests is my favorite thing to do on facebook! I am not trying have 400 friends, of which 25 I actually talk to in the real world. When people from my high school send a friend request I ask myself “when I have I last talked to them and would I seek them out to talk/meet with them if I was back in my home town?” If the answer is ‘No’ to both, then the request is denied. I think it is funny when people send you a friend request week after week.
If you are getting upset over it, you are being waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too sensitive (unless you are 13 year old girl, then they obviously don’t want to ever talk to you).
Do what I do. If I get a friend request from someone I really don’t want to talk to, and like you it is mostly from people in high school that I haven’t talked to in 10 years, I’ll accept their request and then delete them about a week later. They aren’t notified if you delete them so they won’t know directly.
You have to do it right though. If they something over 100 friends or so, they probably won’t miss you but if they are new or have only a few friends, it might be easier to find one that is missing. I deleted this one person about 3 months ago and she still hasn’t figured it out yet. Well, we went out on Friday and said “I haven’t seen any status updates from you in forever. What’s up?” I just shrugged it off and said I don’t know and the conversation moved on.
I deleted one friend after the fact. Every few days after that, I would get a new friend request from her. After ignoring about 10 to 15 of them, I got a personal message asking if she had done something to offend me. I ignored it.
Eh, girls tend to be that way more than guys so no surprise there. I would’ve answered her straight up about why I kept ignoring her friend requests.
Anyways, a lot of people bash FB but I’ve meant some great people through it, some from ST and some from other circles. It has actually enhanced my social life and yes I do meet most of these people in real life eventually. Things start on FB and then go from there.
My former boss has requested to friend me and I have ignored it. My philosophy is if they have the power to hire me or fire me there is no way I’ll friend them.
Yeah, I was serious. But your post made me crack up. Made me realize that Facebook is superficial and lame and a waste of time. Time to quit. Seems like the most active users on Facebook are exhibitionists that feel the need to post what they are doing and thinking to “friends” they barely know. I wonder if Facebook will lose it’s appeal like MySpace has. Some people spend more time online then they actually do socializing and interacting with real people in the flesh.
I don’t see the point in deleting or ignoring people unless it’s someone I don’t want seeing my stuff. Other than that, I don’t care if they are on my friend list. It’s passive, I don’t have to do anything whether they are there or not.
That’s why I deleted that one friend. She was some old lady from church, and I didn’t want to have to edit myself for her when posting about my hemohrroids.
