Reminded me of this…wait for the last line
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People see us and get confused as to why she’s with me (and I’d have to agree with them)
Then she’s with you for your money.
Run away as fast as you can.
No don’t. She will be loyal as long as you keep giving. Best way to keep things in check.
I mean, give the girl a chance to work her way up in society.
Are you in California?
I would never want a wife or girlfriend who was with me because I gave her stuff or if she was dependent on me.
Yes, I’m in CA.
People see us and get confused as to why she’s with me (and I’d have to agree with them)
Then she’s with you for your money.
Run away as fast as you can.
No don’t. She will be loyal as long as you keep giving. Best way to keep things in check.
I mean, give the girl a chance to work her way up in society.
Are you in California?
I would never want a wife or girlfriend who was with me because I gave her stuff or if she was dependent on me.
Yes, I’m in CA.
It’s 5AM in CA why are you posting this early … go back to sleep
I said there were also cultural differences. Anything your family didn’t teach you, or were you perfect in every way?
Nope far from perfect. When I lived in South africa they didn’t take their shoes off in the house. And I embarrassed the girl I was dating when I asked where I should put my shoes while visiting someone’s house.
So you must be South African. Clearly.
I said there were also cultural differences. Anything your family didn’t teach you, or were you perfect in every way?
Nope far from perfect. When I lived in South africa they didn’t take their shoes off in the house. And I embarrassed the girl I was dating when I asked where I should put my shoes while visiting someone’s house.
So you must be South African. Clearly.
A white South African? Are you calling Barry a racist?
A guy really has to be on their toes when they talk to a girl about the girl’s problems. This is because the guy has to keep reminding himself that chicks don’t think like guys. You can’t surrender to your natural inclination to offer “fix” ideas. You have to force yourself to be perfectly willing to just talk about their problem in a sympathetic tone and don’t mentioned solution ideas. You’re helping by talking to her about it. Don’t try to help by move the conversation to problem fixes unless clearly directed to do so. It took me 35yrs to figure this out. Read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. Carefully and with a highlighter. Then loan it to GF.
My point is that the apparent small amount of tension on this issue between you two may be less about her idea that “you don’t understand the problem from her perspective” and more about “quit trying to fix. I just want to talk”.
Guys are usually fixers. The only reason you bring up a problem to a guy is because you’re looking for ideas re. fixing the problem.
Chicks usually aren’t like that. Chicks like to talk about the problem. So when a chick “seems” to be bringing you a problem, you CANNOT ASSUME SHE’S ASKING FOR HELP TO FIX IT. She may well just want to talk about it. If so, you’re attempts to “fix” the problem will just annoy her. If you can’t figure out if she just wants to talk about it, or if she wants solution ideas, ask her. But do so in a way that’s not going to make her grind her teeth.
If I had read the book I mentioned above when I was your age, it would have made me so successful with chicks that I’d have died in my 20’s from sexual exhaustion. If you have concerns along those lines, don’t read the book.
So you must be South African. Clearly.
Obviously. Free Nelson Mandela!
So you must be South African. Clearly.
Obviously. Free Nelson Mandela!
From the bonds of death? You’re going to need some serious mojo for that.
A guy really has to be on their toes when they talk to a girl about the girl’s problems. This is because the guy has to keep reminding himself that chicks don’t think like guys. You can’t surrender to your natural inclination to offer “fix” ideas. You have to force yourself to be perfectly willing to just talk about their problem in a sympathetic tone and don’t mentioned solution ideas. You’re helping by talking to her about it. Don’t try to help by move the conversation to problem fixes unless clearly directed to do so. It took me 35yrs to figure this out. Read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. Carefully and with a highlighter. Then loan it to GF.
My point is that the apparent small amount of tension on this issue between you two may be less about her idea that “you don’t understand the problem from her perspective” and more about “quit trying to fix. I just want to talk”.
Guys are usually fixers. The only reason you bring up a problem to a guy is because you’re looking for ideas re. fixing the problem.
Chicks usually aren’t like that. Chicks like to talk about the problem. So when a chick “seems” to be bringing you a problem, you CANNOT ASSUME SHE’S ASKING FOR HELP TO FIX IT. She may well just want to talk about it. If so, you’re attempts to “fix” the problem will just annoy her. If you can’t figure out if she just wants to talk about it, or if she wants solution ideas, ask her. But do so in a way that’s not going to make her grind her teeth.
If I had read the book I mentioned above when I was your age, it would have made me so successful with chicks that I’d have died in my 20’s from sexual exhaustion. If you have concerns along those lines, don’t read the book.
You absolutely nailed it. Great post.
A guy really has to be on their toes when they talk to a girl about the girl’s problems. This is because the guy has to keep reminding himself that chicks don’t think like guys. You can’t surrender to your natural inclination to offer “fix” ideas. You have to force yourself to be perfectly willing to just talk about their problem in a sympathetic tone and don’t mentioned solution ideas. You’re helping by talking to her about it. Don’t try to help by move the conversation to problem fixes unless clearly directed to do so. It took me 35yrs to figure this out. Read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. Carefully and with a highlighter. Then loan it to GF.
My point is that the apparent small amount of tension on this issue between you two may be less about her idea that “you don’t understand the problem from her perspective” and more about “quit trying to fix. I just want to talk”.
Guys are usually fixers. The only reason you bring up a problem to a guy is because you’re looking for ideas re. fixing the problem.
Chicks usually aren’t like that. Chicks like to talk about the problem. So when a chick “seems” to be bringing you a problem, you CANNOT ASSUME SHE’S ASKING FOR HELP TO FIX IT. She may well just want to talk about it. If so, you’re attempts to “fix” the problem will just annoy her. If you can’t figure out if she just wants to talk about it, or if she wants solution ideas, ask her. But do so in a way that’s not going to make her grind her teeth.
If I had read the book I mentioned above when I was your age, it would have made me so successful with chicks that I’d have died in my 20’s from sexual exhaustion. If you have concerns along those lines, don’t read the book.
Why is it so irritating to me that you use the word “chicks”? Otherwise, quality response.
A guy really has to be on their toes when they talk to a girl about the girl’s problems. This is because the guy has to keep reminding himself that chicks don’t think like guys. You can’t surrender to your natural inclination to offer “fix” ideas. You have to force yourself to be perfectly willing to just talk about their problem in a sympathetic tone and don’t mentioned solution ideas. You’re helping by talking to her about it. Don’t try to help by move the conversation to problem fixes unless clearly directed to do so. It took me 35yrs to figure this out. Read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. Carefully and with a highlighter. Then loan it to GF.
My point is that the apparent small amount of tension on this issue between you two may be less about her idea that “you don’t understand the problem from her perspective” and more about “quit trying to fix. I just want to talk”.
Guys are usually fixers. The only reason you bring up a problem to a guy is because you’re looking for ideas re. fixing the problem.
Chicks usually aren’t like that. Chicks like to talk about the problem. So when a chick “seems” to be bringing you a problem, you CANNOT ASSUME SHE’S ASKING FOR HELP TO FIX IT. She may well just want to talk about it. If so, you’re attempts to “fix” the problem will just annoy her. If you can’t figure out if she just wants to talk about it, or if she wants solution ideas, ask her. But do so in a way that’s not going to make her grind her teeth.
If I had read the book I mentioned above when I was your age, it would have made me so successful with chicks that I’d have died in my 20’s from sexual exhaustion. If you have concerns along those lines, don’t read the book.
You absolutely nailed it. Great post.
That video was hilarious. Even our boys loved it.
Read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. Carefully and with a highlighter. Then loan it to GF.
After I read this part, I was 100% confident you are talking out of your ass.
You never ever do that as a guy… highlighter/ really? That’s relationship suicide.
To the OP:
You can thank me later…
From the bonds of death? You’re going to need some serious mojo for that.
Some rallying cries never die!
Sorry OP but your question is a waste of time. Answer is, don’t worry about it. 6-8 months from now you won’t be with this girl so don’t sweat it too much now. Ain’t gonna mean nothing when you are broken up.
Yeah, yeah, you are different and you two really love each other, blah blah blah. Save it. High school relationships never last through college and the ones that hang on longer just make it worse for themselves. My college had a nice system, 6 weeks on, then a week of break before another 6 weeks on. Every damn year the freshman girls would come in talking about how much they loved and missed their boyfriends. Then they go home for a week, then they come back and it is open season.
So forget the issue, have some fun, and realize you’ll be on to someone new within the year.
Sorry OP but your question is a waste of time. Answer is, don’t worry about it. 6-8 months from now you won’t be with this girl so don’t sweat it too much now. Ain’t gonna mean nothing when you are broken up.
Yeah, yeah, you are different and you two really love each other, blah blah blah. Save it. High school relationships never last through college and the ones that hang on longer just make it worse for themselves. My college had a nice system, 6 weeks on, then a week of break before another 6 weeks on. Every damn year the freshman girls would come in talking about how much they loved and missed their boyfriends. Then they go home for a week, then they come back and it is open season.
So forget the issue, have some fun, and realize you’ll be on to someone new within the year.
Really? My wife and I have been married for 22 years and we started dating in High School and lasted through college.
I am younger, as in entering freshman year of college. I am dating a girl a few months younger than me, and have been for quite awhile. Neither of us are going anywhere.
Her car is 210,000 miles, and more issues than it should have, and it costs more to fix it than is worth. Thus, they enter the world of car shopping. I was talking to her today, and she got a little frustrated and told me “Your family has money, and your lifestyle and childhood are and were very different than mine, and you wouldn’t understand.” Conversation followed those lines for a while, and it got me wondering…
A) Have you ever been in either of our shoes? Or to phrase it another way, have you ever been dating someone who came from a wealthier family or from a less wealthy family? (I know no family is the same- but I’m talking noticable difference).
B) How do you go about this situation? I want to kind of just talk about like, “Okay lets talk about how we were raised and stuff and the differences, the pros and cons and how we feel about it, such that we are able to understand each other better?”
C) Any thoughts? One of my biggest ones is that we don’t get to pick the life we are born into, and that can go any which way. So rather than being upset, bitter, smug, etc, why not communicate and try to understand each other? I also understand that this would be harder on one end than the other, especially when money is tight in one partners life.
D) You’re too young for a serious relationship, especially since you’re just starting college. So many great experiences that you can miss out on by being in an exclusive relationship.
That said, those are good conversations to have. She’s probably right that you don’t understand. But that doesn’t mean you’re incapable of understanding.
Sorry OP but your question is a waste of time. Answer is, don’t worry about it. 6-8 months from now you won’t be with this girl so don’t sweat it too much now. Ain’t gonna mean nothing when you are broken up.
Yeah, yeah, you are different and you two really love each other, blah blah blah. Save it. High school relationships never last through college and the ones that hang on longer just make it worse for themselves. My college had a nice system, 6 weeks on, then a week of break before another 6 weeks on. Every damn year the freshman girls would come in talking about how much they loved and missed their boyfriends. Then they go home for a week, then they come back and it is open season.
So forget the issue, have some fun, and realize you’ll be on to someone new within the year.
Really? My wife and I have been married for 22 years and we started dating in High School and lasted through college.
You aren’t the norm Mr. 1%'er.
Sorry OP but your question is a waste of time. Answer is, don’t worry about it. 6-8 months from now you won’t be with this girl so don’t sweat it too much now. Ain’t gonna mean nothing when you are broken up.
Yeah, yeah, you are different and you two really love each other, blah blah blah. Save it. High school relationships never last through college and the ones that hang on longer just make it worse for themselves. My college had a nice system, 6 weeks on, then a week of break before another 6 weeks on. Every damn year the freshman girls would come in talking about how much they loved and missed their boyfriends. Then they go home for a week, then they come back and it is open season.
So forget the issue, have some fun, and realize you’ll be on to someone new within the year.
Really? My wife and I have been married for 22 years and we started dating in High School and lasted through college.
You aren’t the norm Mr. 1%'er.
Is the same for my wife’s sister and her husband.
Sorry OP but your question is a waste of time. Answer is, don’t worry about it. 6-8 months from now you won’t be with this girl so don’t sweat it too much now. Ain’t gonna mean nothing when you are broken up.
Yeah, yeah, you are different and you two really love each other, blah blah blah. Save it. High school relationships never last through college and the ones that hang on longer just make it worse for themselves. My college had a nice system, 6 weeks on, then a week of break before another 6 weeks on. Every damn year the freshman girls would come in talking about how much they loved and missed their boyfriends. Then they go home for a week, then they come back and it is open season.
So forget the issue, have some fun, and realize you’ll be on to someone new within the year.
Really? My wife and I have been married for 22 years and we started dating in High School and lasted through college.
You aren’t the norm Mr. 1%'er.
Is the same for my wife’s sister and her husband.
What cult are you from? 