I work with some very nice teenage girls and I find myself acting like a dad around them and try my best not too. For example the other day some guy was paying for his meal and was telling the cashier that we needed more hot servers, by the way the cashier is super mega flaming gay so could care less. He pointed at one of the other cashiers and said “Like she is cute.” Brittany is a very beautiful, smart, kind and hard working 17 year old who I think the world of. I had to walk away because I wanted to get in his face and say “You don’t point at her and you don’t judge her!” The same as I would for my daughter. It’s not just this instance though. I always thank them for their work and help them when I can. I walk them to their cars when their shift is over, keep a good distance from them when I talk with them and listen to their problems. I feel like I need to guide and protect them.
Does anyone esle do this? Let me state that I am careful about what I say to them and do everything in my power to not be dad like. Am I just a weirdo?
I can’t help but feel that this conversation about me a pretty young ladies is creepy and I just want everyone too know that this is not creepy. I go out of my way to not be creepy and as a result am probably being creepy. One of the girls the other day told me she liked working with me because I always thanked her for her work and was nice to her. I asked, “It’s not creepy old guy is it? I swear I don’t want to be creepy old guy.” She said if I was being creepy old guy she would get me fired. I liked that attitude. Girl power and all that.
What you just wrote doesn’t sound like “The dad switch” but just plain old “Decent person” switch and for the love of god don’t turn it off…we have enough people that simply are born without one.
Guy’s used to walk women to cars and guys used to keep rude remarks to themselves, it’s just plain old decency. As far as I’m concerned you should have said something. Some comment of “The strip club is down the road, this happens to be a restaurant and not Hooters” would have been appropriate.
I was drunk once…ok I’ve been drunk a few times…but this time I was really drunk. I made a “Rude comment” about a picture, to someone I knew no less. Someone else overheard and made a comment to the effect of “Do you think she’d like to hear that?”
I was young, to young to be drinking, and that comment stuck with me all my life…so I guess I couldn’t have been too drunk
Call me old fashion but I miss the civility, I miss women that are women and respect themselves and demand the same from men. I’m sure there has always been assholes, I just get the feeling the assholes are winning now, even that it’s “Cool” to be a rude asshole.
He doesn’t work with you does he? If so I wouldn’t hesitate to A) tell him his comments are unwelcome and rude (Maybe he doesn’t realize it) and if the persist B) get his ass fired.
He works with me, yes. I can’t stand him - for reasons beyond what I’ve mentioned. I told my boss the other day and he got pretty pissed and said it would be addressed. Whatever. Frankly, the more he pisses me off the less I pay attention to him (well, really I ignore him teehee). The less I pay attention to him, the more he leaves me the fuck alone and goes to my boss and asks “what’s up D’s ass today?”. It’s a lovely work environment.
Does anyone esle do this? Let me state that I am careful about what I say to them and do everything in my power to not be dad like. Am I just a weirdo?
“I am just tellling you this because I care; but there are plenty of decaf brands on the market that are just as good as the real thing”
A quick strike with the heel of your hand at an upward angle will break his nose and it sounds deserved to me. Don’t worry the old wives tale about the “nose bone” stabbing his brain is bullshit.
Don’t turn it off, Tibbs. Teenage girls need as many people standing up for them and helping them out as possible. They need people to walk them to their cars even though they say they don’t. They need people to be respectful and to stand up for them. I can only hope that my daughters get to work with a man like you some day. I like to think that many people will be looking after them when I cannot be there.
“I just get the feeling the assholes are winning now, even that it’s “Cool” to be a rude asshole.”
It’s true. Our major media figures are mostly dicks. No one aspires to be that nice man who helped change a ladies tire, it seems everyone wants to be the asshole who gets his/hers.
I wish the asshole that makes demeaning and sexual references to me at work would act more like a dad (of a girl the same age as me).
maybe he saw your sig line… lol
