What would you say kills it for you as an athlete?
I’ll start: Smoking. Although I dated a smoker for 5 years I would never do it again. Total no-go. Talking too much about inane topics for the sake of filling silence. Drama. No way. Drinking to excess- which means to me, more than once a year. (I’ve never even tasted an alcoholic beverage). Jealous and medalsome. Rude and unpoised. I am rude and unpoised enough for at least two people. I need a gracious person to offset my obnoxious candor.
All of Tom’s stuff with a couple of slight modifications and additions… She must be athletic She can’t be afraid to get dirty (not that way) She must have a positive attitude She shouldn’t drink to excess- which means to me, more than casually a couple of times per month (I am drinking a marg right now, had a couple beers over the 4th). She has to like my cooking
“Drinking to excess- which means to me, more than once a year”
I’ll go along with anything you’ve said except this. If you can’t offer a woman a candle light dinner with a nice bottle of wine it’s no wonder you’re striking out.
The biggest turn-off for me is smoking! I’ve seen knock out women with cigarettes sticking out of their mouths and WHAM instant downer! Also, non-stop negative talk, phoney personalities, conceited women etc… but, offer me Paris Hilton and a video camera…
Being dumb. Sorry I can’t handle dumb women. I will say I am attracted to brains more than looks. Can’t stand a dumb women.
Drama, “Homey don’t play that” another complete turn off.
Weight, I love skinny! but have dated my share of normal to “I gotta lose 20-30 lbs” women. But I can’t deal with heavy, I don’t get it, do something about it.
along the same lines as above, dislike a woman who doesn’t take care of or care about her body. Won’t eat healthy, refuses to excercise etc.
Materialistic. not really a problem, no woman with this trait is gonna date me for long.
Distant, I like to hold hands and just be close to someone. I guess I am a touchy feely type of guy. (get your minds out of the sewer)
Unwilling to share my interests even as a spectator. I don’t need someone to run an IM with me, but a support crew would be nice.
Smoking… If you did it in the past, fine, but it’s history. ONE light-up, and you’re gone. I will no have that near me, my house, or my daughter.
Drug use… Perscription is okay, if it’s to treat. No recreational use will be tolerated.
Drinking… Don’t mind the vino to moderation. You get drunk, you’ll wake up in the car. The keys are in the ignition. Drive yourself home. Don’t call. Harsh? Damn right.
Trying to change me… Again, not tolerated. You either knew what I was going into this, or you’re here to find out. I don’t need fixing. And if it bugs you THAT much that you want to change it, then I’m not your guy.
Rudeness… Well, there’s a whole personality that goes along with it that I wouldn’t even approach, so it’s really not even a deal-breaker. It’s an initial criteria.
Hygiene… If you want me to go there, you’d better be clean.
Sex drive… Gotta be high, or at least one of us is gonna be frustrated.
Health/athletecism… She’s going to have to be into something. No couch potatoes. Not that I’m looking for a hard-core tri-babe (though that wouldn’t be a bad thing). But at least have an understanding of putting in physical effort, and maybe even “training”, for a goal. And no fat chicks. Period.
on the smoking thing, Im with you on that although an occasional Monte Cristo number 2 or a Cohiba Esplendito will please the palate on occasion.
“Drama, No Way”, dude, most girls are full of drama and guys are too. Those that run from Drama are a red flag for me because they usually cant COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY. Although too much drama can be a red flag as well
“Drinking once a year”, sheeeesh, you live a sheltered life, I cant believe for a minute that your fellow soldiers let you get away with that, it never happens in the Marines, hehehehehehhe.
Jealousy, heck everyone is jealous at some point, I was Jealous at my dog for licking the ability to lick his own balls:)))))))
Rude, Im with you on this one, thats a deal breaker.
What Happened to the BFA??? Sounds like your a free man again???
Smoking. Although I dated a smoker for 5 years I would never do it again. Total no-go.
agree, not so much of an issue these days in San Diego Talking too much about inane topics for the sake of filling silence.
agree, there must be some common interests, a level intellectual field, topics of discussion Drama. No way.
oh - dont even get me started on this Drinking to excess- which means to me, more than once a year. (I’ve never even tasted an alcoholic beverage).
you will likely have difficulty here Tom, most women lke to drink, I see where you are coming from however, I drink maybe once or twice every year around the holidays, and have gone without drinking for 6 years once, never thought twice about it, so it is safe to assume that I don’t do the bar scene, but I digress … along the same lines, if I don’t drink at all, and they want to drink, they should not have a problem with me obstaining Jealous and medalsome.
agree with jealousy, however medalsome would be good, I would have to assume that they win their age group often
meddlesome on the other hand, not so good Rude and unpoised. I am rude and unpoised enough for at least two people. I need a gracious person to offset my obnoxious candor.
hmmmm…I’m married, and have alot of different interests in my life (aside from sports). but if for some wild reason I was single…here goes… no smoking, can’t deal with it…and never have no addictions–alcohol, gambling, womanizing, drugs, or otherwise no “dramas”–in other words, I can’t stand people that are conflict oriented. i just want peace in my life. if you can’t make good decisions, good riddens. no players–no one runs games on me, personally/professionally…past or future must be into simplicity–this doesn’t mean no appreciation for a few fine things…just not everything. appreciation of good food, or willingness to learn–simply put, don’t freak out if I put sauteed squid in the sauce, or order a black and tan. (basic, I know, but I’m from the midwest…lol). also, know how to enjoy a good drink from time to time. if you don’t drink martinis, well try one!no egos–seriously, check it at the door. we’re all human…all in the same boat. everybody poops, and everybody has flaws. nobody is better than anybody. have fun and be funny–if you aren’t funny, can’t laugh about shit, or take things too seriously, no thanks. i mean, what’s the point? have a life–waiting on me to fill your life’s voids? you’ll be at the bus stop forever. for real…have a life, do something with yourself, and create some personal interests. i think big and act big. if someone doesn’t have their own projects…they might just feel left out. besides, for those who don’t have personal interests–how boring is that??? don’t be embarrassed of my confidence–i laugh loud, confront people, tell rude jokes, talk to strangers, and basically have no fear and don’t seek social acceptance. if a man can’t handle that, then step aside, there’s another 10 who will. I’ll never be the shy one in the corner.be real–I’m from the country, and see beyond appearances. it’s amazing the financially loaded men from my past. they were all baffeled that i didn’t want to get married right away and have kids…lol. please. drive a BMW? so what. if you don’t have heart and soul, no need to apply. money doesn’t impress me, but heart, soul, and good decisions do it’s hard to find an authentic person these days. lol. this was fun!! (and I guess I’m glad I’m not single!)
