So it seems the topic of what women want got some good attention so lets turn it around… what do the guys want in a woman. Not necessarily a tri-woman but any type. I’ll weigh in later with mine. Have at it.
Love. Everything else comes from that. Sorry to be so simplistic, but that’s the answer. Love.
tits…
Patience, understanding, and a damn good sense of humour. Brains too. Willingness to support without always understanding why. One who takes great joy in living. Independent, strong willed, and having the capacity to go against the flow. Having great passion for something (not necessarily athletic). Confident as all hell. In an ideal situation, one who finds my annoying tendencies somewhat endearing - but I’ll settle for willing to put up with them. Did I mention a good sense of humour? That’s an absolute must. More important than anything other than brains.
Are we supposed to give an honest answer or the politically correct one 
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There can be no answer to this question since the whole is greater than the sum of the parts.
John
I have tried a few times to come up with something to write about as far as what I look for in a woman. But it either winds up being to emotionally wussy or too damn hard to explain. I am a really complicated guy. How does my wife tolerate me? Athletic would be nice (wife is not the most in this cat.), outgoing (nope…not particularly), lean and fit (she’s working on it), funny (she is definitely that), crap…the more I think about it the longer the list gets…who’s bright idea was this thread anyway? What are you trying to do make me depressed or look like a self centered jerk (oh wait…seems I already did that myself…double crap)? Alright…bottom line…a woman who is willing to give me as much time and energy as I’d give her.
And as a personal bias…fit, long red hair, green eyes and has a sweet singing voice (weird I know but that should already be very evident)
Since I’m not talking about any long-term thing (it never is at my age), here’s what I’m looking for in a girl:
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Face. She has to have a pretty face. Curly hair is a no-no (I make exceptions if the things below are met).
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Ass. A nice, firm, round ass. A good example: (not work safe, but it’s only an ass so who knows): http://irc.junglist.org/laetitia/originals/laetitiacasta_010.jpg
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Breasts. They gotta be porportionate to the whole body. If they’re -too- big that’s a no, but come on, I have guys on my swim team who have A cups haha.
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Skinny girls are as big a turnoff as fat girls. She needs to be healthy (but on the thin side hehe).
Here’s a good overall pic of a really pretty girl.
http://irc.junglist.org/laetitia/originals/laetitiacasta_052.jpg
Now if we’re talking long-term, she needs a great personality. Smart with a good sense of humor (she doesn’t have to be funny though, just easy-going with jokes). Outgoing that can hold a conversation. And finally and most importantly she needs to like me (ie needs to be a connection). If you don’t have that you don’t have anything.
C’mon that’s too easy!
And the number one answer is…
…A don’t ask/don’t tell policy regarding tri purchases.
And if, like my wife, she thinks carbon fiber is pretty, that helps too.
I’m lucky that my wife is into tri even more than I am. In fact she trains more than I do (guess I’m too busy posting on the forum). So she understands the bike purchases, etc since she’s there herself.
The best part is that she “lets me” beat her on the bike portion every time. In return I always “let her” beat me on the run every time. Now thats love.
I heard something the other day–“It is better to want what you have than to have what you want.” Sometimes, when you get what you want, you find out it really isn’t what you thought. Having said that, I guess what I want in a woman is my wife. No, she is not slim and athletic. Yes, she has a few wrinkles. But, she has put up with me for 25 years, 1 month, and 25 days (no easy task); bore three sons; laughs at my jokes; fixes my meals; nursed me when I was sick; tolerates my hobbies; and, I am sure, will be there with me till the end.
Understanding that yes I do love her, and I love a sport as well. She needs to know that even if I am not with her as much as I am with my bike…it is only because my bike never tries to get “out of a ride”.
A nice size net worth. Six figures for starters. A great conversationalist, not a rambler, good solid interesting conversation. Because when I am old and wrinkley, and blind, she can take care of me financially and talk with me.
If we all wrote down everything we wanted in a woman it would be useless. Why? Because that woman would never go out with us. =)
If I remember right, on how this discussion is suppossed to go … anyone that says anything other than “sex” is lying.
What man should be looking for is a woman that has seen his worst characteristics and loves him despite his faults. If you can find someone that knows your weaknesses and still keeps you around, you’re lucky. Enjoy it.
The “Don’t ask – don’t tell” policy woman would be wonderful. I think that only works in one direction.
I am figuring out that if you want to be a triathlete … don’t marry an accountant.
All seriousness, there’s no reason why you can’t find the woman you’re looking for. Don’t settle for anything less. Ever.
Passionate, playful, committed and understanding - easy to describe but hard to find.
Now I wonder how many people are married to or dating a woman (or a man for the other thread) that fits their description. I know my girl friend is far from what I described.
Dan’s going to have to invest in some additional bandwidth when Tom D weisghs in on this!!
Sorry to chime in on this thread another time, but I feel this is important …
Now I wonder how many people are married to or dating a woman (or a man for the other thread) that fits their description.
Actually, meeting my bride changed my description of what I was looking for.
Don’t settle for anything less. Ever. <<
Oh my God–I am TOTALLY agreeing with T3!! {grin}
Seriously, this is so true. I think many people don’t want to/don’t know how to be alone, so take the first (or second, or third) thing that comes along just so they have someone. My mother says I’m too picky. My dad says, better to be too picky than not picky enough. Dad’s the bomb.
clm
“Don’t settle for anything less. Ever.”
Yeah. I consider myself a bit of an observer of human behaviour when it comes to relationships.
I’ve noted that there are some people who just can’t be alone because they are absolutely terrified of it. They stay in lousy relationships for fear of being alone or they get themselves into another relationship immediately after one breaks up. There are even people who become involved in a relationship with somebody else while already in a relationship, but they won’t leave the bad relationship until they have already establised another one to step into. Usually that doesn’t solve any problems BTW. IMO, after a relationship breaks up we all need down time.
On the other hand, I’ve also observed people that I call “chronically single”. These people may claim that they just haven’t met the right person yet but more likely in reality they’re afraid of intimacy. They can either be alone most of the time or can have umpteen previous revolving door relationships. These are the “picky” people in as much as they always find fault and have an ideal image of what their ultimate mate is supposed to be. In reality they’re chasing a fantasy as there is no such thing. Consequently, they stay single.
Just my $.02 based upon years of observing. Maybe I should have been a psychologist instead of a chiro.
Must be positive cash flow, extremely intelligent, anarcho-capitalist, honest, and hotter than a death valley summer.
Less seriously- mouth shut, legs open is an acceptable interim alternative (and a recent blood test, I am old enough I am not willing to die for it). 80% of divorces are filed by women - men really don’t require much to be satisfied. Unfortunately their few requirements have a tendency to be exactly what women are not willing to provide without of plethora of strings and expectations attached.