A message from Tibbs' brother

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Hello everyone.

If you’re interested to know about Mr. Tibbs, keep reading. If you’re not, stop reading and go to something else more to your liking. I say that because this will not be a fun thing to read, but knowing how big a part of my brother’s life this board has been, the relationships he has built (or imagines he has built) are important to him, I need to say something to you.

I don’t really know much about this site and who he considers his friends or what he’s done. I really don’t. I’ve posted a few times and read for a week or so, then lost interest. This site was one of the ways he was able to keep his hope alive; a hope he’s had for as long as I’ve known him; that he would be an athlete; that he could run far and fast, bike for hours and most of all, be happy. That’s all he wants, is to be happy, but unfortunately I don’t think he knows how to find that for himself. Scratch that, I know he doesn’t know how to find that for himself. His method to this point has been to build himself up for a fall; fantasize about triathalons he’ll never do instead of focusing on what’s in front of him; a devoted wife and two wonderful children.

He is now in the hospital; he attempted to take his own life. Physically he is fine. Physically.

I don’t know how many of you know him or how much you might like him, what he may have done in the past and whether or not you respect him; but I want you to know he’s a good man. I am lucky to call him my brother.

I think those of you who are interested, those of you who have invested even a small part of yourselves in him, deserve to know some things. He’s a very fragile man, and in that way he is beautiful.

I don’t know if he’ll come back to this site. I don’t know if he’ll ever read my post here. But in case he does come back I would like for you all to be kind to him.

Like I said I don’t know what all has gone on on this site; but if I know my brother I know he’s brought a lot of laughs and tried his best to make everyone happy; to make everyone proud. That’s his blessing and his curse.

So if he comes back, realize that he’s a wonderful, fragile person.

And, Jon, if you’re reading this, I love you.

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this is devastating to hear. i’ve been one of many members of this community who’s appreciated the humor and wit tibbs has contributed to his posts. this puts things into perspective that people have separate lives outside how we interact on this forum, and that we only see a fraction of what goes on in each other’s personal lives. thank you for updating us on this and i wish jon nothing but the best in getting better and in taking care of his personal life one step at a time.

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This is really really sad news. I hope Jon (Mr Tibbs) can make his way through this and come back to all of the people who love him. I miss his humour and comments on Slowtwitch and I hope he will come back here too. Get well Jon!

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Tell Tibbsy to hang tough and send him all our best wishes

peace and love to him and his family
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I had been wondering about his whereabouts for the last little while. Thank you so much for getting us up to speed. If there is anything the Tribe can do to help out let us know…you can’t begin to imagine how much the big lug means to us.

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Hi Adam,

Please wish him a speedy recovery, and our wishes go to his family in this difficult time

Mark
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Yesterday I was wondering why we had not heard from Mr Tibbs lately. Give him my/our best.

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Tibbs - we miss you man…

You’re waay too funny, and have waay too much to offer to be this sad.

Fight your way back dude…

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Just read this over on the main forum. Please pass on our regards and best wishes. We do miss him here and hope all works out well. Hope he returns soon.

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Hi Adam

Just to let you know, I posted this in the main forum. Most of the SlowTwitchers don’t visit here, but most know about him I suggest you find the thread in the main forum. Jon will be happy to hear the responses I am sure.

Regards,

Mark

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the relationships he has built (or imagines he has built) are important to him

He didnt just imagine them, and please let him know that he’s important to us, and we wish him a speedy recovery
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Sad news. Please give Tibbs our best wishes.

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Send Tibbs our best wishes and let him know that with help, you can come out the other side a stronger and better person.

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I don’t know how many of you know him or how much you might like him, what he may have done in the past and whether or not you respect him; but I want you to know he’s a good man. I am lucky to call him my brother.

I like him a lot, and I respect him more. I consider myself lucky to call him a friend. Please give him my best wishes for a good recovery. As always, he’s in my prayers.

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I know Mr. Tibbs only through the forum and a few PMs and I like what I know. He is in my prayers, wish him my best for himself and his family.

Hopefully he will be able to join us here soon.

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That’s terrible news. When did this happen? Mon, Tue or Wed?

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That is indeed upsetting news, Adam.

Please give Tibbs our best and let him know the denizens of very own Lavender Room miss him terribly and wish him a speedy and complete recovery.

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I know Tibbs made me laugh on a regular basis, in fact so many time I know I have lost count. Please give him my best wishes and let him know that I would love to see him back here again.

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We’re thinking of him and missing him. Our best wishes and hope for recovery to both Tibbs and his family.

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My thoughts go to Tibbs, his family and yours.