Yes there can be coaches who suck and play certain players because of family name or pressure but in general there is a lot of great stuff in this read.
http://www.boston.com/sports/blogs/obnoxiousbostonfan/2014/10/were_about_a_month_or.html
The absurdity of many “win-at-all-cost” coaches in youth sports is neatly matched by the fanaticism of “play-my-kid-or-else” parents at the high-school level.
When the games start to count, the main reason why your kid isn’t playing is simple:
“They’re just not good enough.”
“He/she just isn’t fast enough.”
“He/she just isn’t strong enough.”
“He/she just isn’t tall enough.”
“He/she is too fat/too skinny.”
“He/she just didn’t try hard enough in practice.”
“He/she should not play over Jimmy/Jenny because they’re faster, quicker, stronger, taller, and/or try harder.”
Far too many children today are living in a world where they never learn “no.” They don’t know how to handle disappointment and failure. Nor do they know how to react and move on when they don’t get their own way. Interacting with actual people, and not just the screens on their iPhones or iPads, is a challenge, if not an impossibility. I won’t call this “abuse,” but it’s pretty damn close.
This is a world constructed by “well-meaning” but dangerously naïve parents. The children know no better because this is what they’re taught. Real-life doesn’t come with “Participation Awards,” “8th-Place Trophies” or laudatory bumper-stickers telling everyone that you’re able to do your job without screwing up.
Playing a team sport, like football, with the right coaching can help students learn life’s difficult lessons, including Mick Jagger’s truism that “you can’t always get what you want.”