Yesterday my fiance told me there was a discussion on this forum about men who had lost the special woman in their life, and it turned into somewhat of a "Dear Abby" column. I'm not Abby, but I may have some valuable advice for you. Let me start by telling you a few things about women. First, women need attention-- lots of it. We need to feel like we are the number one thing in your life. When your mate sees you spending three times as much time and energy with other things, it does not make her feel very important to you. If a woman does not feel like she is getting your attention, it is likely that she may try to get someone else's attention. Not because she doesn't love you, but because she doesn't feel loved. Second, words are not enough. You can tell us we are beautiful and wonderful. You can tell us you love us, but until you show us we will not fully believe it. Like the song says," What would you do if I took those words from you and you couldn't make things new just by saying I love you." If you were not able to say, "I love you" or "I think you are sexy"... would she know how you felt anyway because of your actions? We need to FEEL sexy, desirable, needed, wanted, and even craved. When you seem more interested in reading a sports magazine, or the posts on this forum than responding to our "advances", do you think that makes us feel very desirable? Third, we like to know that you are thinking about us even when we are not with you. Like right now... you obviously have some spare time on your hands because you are on the computer. What if you took about 60 seconds to EMail your mate and tell her you are thinking about her... or better yet, tell her you are thinking about how great she looks naked. Do you realize that in that 60 seconds you have put a big smile on her face and made her whole day. Get off this computer and write her a love letter, bring a coke to her at work and tell her you really just wanted to see her for a few minutes. (My fiance does this and it brightens even the dreariest of days), call her for no reason; let her know that there is something else on your mind besides your sport. We are very proud of you and all your accomplishments in your sport. I personally try to be very supportive and go to every race(even races on OU football game days). It's not the sport that makes us crazy... it's the obsession. Keep in mind WE ADORE YOU, and all we want is to FEEL (that's the key word) like you adore us, too. Remember, people are more important than things... treat them that way and they are yours for life.