ripple wrote:
otebski wrote:
ripple wrote:
I have two riding buddies that were out a year before we moved to the area (so I wasn't there, but this is their first-hand account).. they were on a climb and got encircled by 4 dogs, my one buddy pepper sprayed them, the dogs went back and they rode on. 5 minutes later the owner squeezed them both into a ditch with their pickup, and said they'd kill them if they ever pepper sprayed their dogs again. My buddies said it's a public road, to which the owner said I guess you'll have to find another public road to ride on.
And what is that you usually do in such situation? Around here, I would call the police. Death threat is actually a criminal offense, so is squeezing someone into a ditch. Letting unassisted dogs on public road is misdemeanor. They guy would get heavily fined, with possible probation.You just let it go?
They let it go yes, and figured it wasn't worth pursuing. Their feeling was.. if w call the cops on her and she sees us out again she runs us over, we're dead. In the right, but dead.
What do you do? No good answer except maybe kill the asshole dog owner first? I doubt it.
Actually this is a great example. Really think about it. What can you do?
Are escalating the fight or backing down the only alternatives? Both suck and are absolutely unnecessary 99% of the time. I can't fight for shit (unless I'm *really* mad) and I don't back down, so...
It's great that the dog owner actually came out and confronted the riders. Much better chance of resolution vs someone who gets out in their pickup with bull bars and just "accidentally" runs over the next cyclist they see.
So, the owner is obviously really pissed off right? Can you relate at all to why they might be mad? If they are a real crusty asshole those dogs might be the only friends and family they have. People can get really attached to their dogs. So from their perspective
you just came to their home and hurt their babies! Obviously that isn't *your* perspective at all, but it's important to relate to where the owner is coming from and what they believe. You are about as far from being in their "tribe" as you can get, and they already fear and hate you. If you respond in the same manner, then there is no hope. And running to Mommy (calling the cops or animal control) is about the worst thing you can do! Don't turn your home into a war zone. And don't let your neighbors bully you. I mean, isn't that obvious?
So what do you do? Calmly ask them if they'd like to talk about it. Whatever they fire back, don't take the bait. You want them to settle down and talk as rationally as possible. If you manage that, then you've made great progress.
Empathize and deescalate. Very important. Don't engage them while they are still an angry raving lunatic as no communication is possible.
Tell them that you want to find a solution that will be good for everyone (including the dogs). Be completely nonthreatening, but don't back down. Compliment their dogs, tell them that you love dogs and you'd never try to hurt them. You were just trying to train them not to chase people. Even if you didn't ride on that road other people would, and if the dogs are chasing they might get run over. Or if they bite someone the dogs will get put down, and nobody wants that. Do they have any ideas? Maybe the airhorn would work? Etc...