Need advice on whether I can help my wife get more enjoyment out of swimming and if so, how.
Background: At a very young age she had a traumatic experience getting dunked by a boy who was panicking. She stayed out of the water since then and at 35 (2 years ago) decided to give it a chance to go for triathlons. She came into it with a predisposition that she would hate it and hasn't really let go of it since, even with some flashes of happiness which were performance related. She struggled at first with comfort in the water to the point where I had her practicing breathing in a full bathtub. We went through some panicking in the open water before her first race a few times and generally, her race performances haven't been bad, no real panicking, no DNFs, not even stopping at the buoys/canoes for a break. It all came together last year in Tremblant 70.3 for a 38:43 swim and for where she started, it was the proudest result of her athletic hobby life outside of boston.
Anyway, she still despises swimming and skips it regularly. I grew up on the big island so enjoyment of the open water is something I never questioned or thought about. I obviously can't translate that level of enjoyment to her but I also lack the empathy needed to know how she feels about it and whether it is something that can be changed. So I put it to ST, do you think this is something that can be overcome? If so, is that something I can help with or something she needs to figure out herself? Any advice is appreciated.
808 > NYC > PDX > YVR
2024 Races: Taupo
Background: At a very young age she had a traumatic experience getting dunked by a boy who was panicking. She stayed out of the water since then and at 35 (2 years ago) decided to give it a chance to go for triathlons. She came into it with a predisposition that she would hate it and hasn't really let go of it since, even with some flashes of happiness which were performance related. She struggled at first with comfort in the water to the point where I had her practicing breathing in a full bathtub. We went through some panicking in the open water before her first race a few times and generally, her race performances haven't been bad, no real panicking, no DNFs, not even stopping at the buoys/canoes for a break. It all came together last year in Tremblant 70.3 for a 38:43 swim and for where she started, it was the proudest result of her athletic hobby life outside of boston.
Anyway, she still despises swimming and skips it regularly. I grew up on the big island so enjoyment of the open water is something I never questioned or thought about. I obviously can't translate that level of enjoyment to her but I also lack the empathy needed to know how she feels about it and whether it is something that can be changed. So I put it to ST, do you think this is something that can be overcome? If so, is that something I can help with or something she needs to figure out herself? Any advice is appreciated.
808 > NYC > PDX > YVR
2024 Races: Taupo