I am feeling horrible because i overheard my husband criticizing me at a recent social event. at least I took it as critical. When asked what he does for fun, he said 'I watch the kids because my wife is always training.' Huh?!
I really felt ashamed and hurt to overhear him say that. Clearly he harbors resentment. But the reality is that I love spending time with the kids (ages 4 and 5), and try to fit in my training between 5:30 to 7:30am, and on weekends I leave at the crack of dawn and am done with my long ride usually by 10am, to avoid interfering with the family and anything we have planned for the day. Two nights a week I swim till 7:30 pm and two nights a week he does karate until 8:30pm.
Most mornings, I must admit, he gets them up and dressed and when I get back they're downstairs dressed. But in return, I bathe them and arrange dinner half the week (he handles the other half). He does his own thing (karate usually) two nights a week. I work full-time and basically support the family, and he works part-time on his own business and it brings in a little - so my free time is very limited and there's no option of being a stay at home mom (I wish!).
lam passionate about cycling, running, swimming and competing and it makes me very happy and excited about life and plans. I don't do ironman races, but have 1 half-iron on the horizon.
This comment he made is just indicative of an overall lack of support and resentment he has about my triathloning habit. I've always run and cycled, even done races for the past 2 decades, but not to the same extent as now.
Does anyone have a similar situation or any opinion/feedback that's not too negative! Thanks.
I really felt ashamed and hurt to overhear him say that. Clearly he harbors resentment. But the reality is that I love spending time with the kids (ages 4 and 5), and try to fit in my training between 5:30 to 7:30am, and on weekends I leave at the crack of dawn and am done with my long ride usually by 10am, to avoid interfering with the family and anything we have planned for the day. Two nights a week I swim till 7:30 pm and two nights a week he does karate until 8:30pm.
Most mornings, I must admit, he gets them up and dressed and when I get back they're downstairs dressed. But in return, I bathe them and arrange dinner half the week (he handles the other half). He does his own thing (karate usually) two nights a week. I work full-time and basically support the family, and he works part-time on his own business and it brings in a little - so my free time is very limited and there's no option of being a stay at home mom (I wish!).
lam passionate about cycling, running, swimming and competing and it makes me very happy and excited about life and plans. I don't do ironman races, but have 1 half-iron on the horizon.
This comment he made is just indicative of an overall lack of support and resentment he has about my triathloning habit. I've always run and cycled, even done races for the past 2 decades, but not to the same extent as now.
Does anyone have a similar situation or any opinion/feedback that's not too negative! Thanks.
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cyclingmamaof2: Jun 8, 08 8:21