In the wake of AmyCO's thread on "lying" (actually, cheating on a partner), I have another interesting philosophical query.
Someone I know changes his mind a lot. Not "I feel like wearing the blue shirt -- no, the red one".... this is about loudly (ademantly!) professing attitudes, viewpoints, and actions and then later does the opposite. It gets really confusing to understand where the person stands.
Granted, I'm all for someone 'growing'. Someone can grow in a small period of time or over years. I'm even interested in someone telling me their mental processes how he/she went from 'point A' to 'point B'.
Here's a comparable: like someone insisting for years, "I hate the city: it's awful, it's dirty, it's smelly, there's no green grass..." and then moving into the city and saying "It's wonderful, I love the crowds, the clutter is charming, and who needs grass anyway?"
This person is not the first one I've seen to make 180-degree stance changes. The ODD part is, that when these people are asked, "Hmm, you had a different opinion before", they get defensive about what they said in the past -- to the point of real anger. I've several times (from several people) say to me, "Why are you telling me what I said in the past? There is no connection between the past and the present!"
(what? no connection between the past and the present... what about the person him/herself?)
Once again for clarity, I understand that people GROW (and change)!
But what's this about their anger and defensiveness for the process? And do these people realize that others may be affected by their changes of mind, and even a little explanation helps?
My point is about how to understand the true character of a person, if everything, (EVERYTHING!), is subject to 180-degree changes - even the previous changes.
1) Is this just ME [being anal] wanting the thru-line of "Here is how I changed my mind...?"
2) Do people just not like talking about their mental processes (point A went to point B)?
3) Are people just EMBARRASSED about [publicly] changing their mind, and being reminded that they haven't had this new idea forever? Is that why the hostility?
4) Do these people realize that doing 180-degree changes confuses people around them?
Lauren
PS:
Here's something I just remembered:
The two main people I am reflecting on (about being mind-changers) BOTH say, "I hate change! Human being hate change!" yet get defensive about changing their minds frequently.
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Lauren Muney
certified physical fitness trainer
certified health coach
wellcoach
http://www.physicalmind.com
There is no escape from your life... solve the problems and get on with it.
"Just tell her you love her and you think she kicks ass" ~AndrewinNH
"I'm moving [Lauren] to guru status" ~Last Tri in 83
Someone I know changes his mind a lot. Not "I feel like wearing the blue shirt -- no, the red one".... this is about loudly (ademantly!) professing attitudes, viewpoints, and actions and then later does the opposite. It gets really confusing to understand where the person stands.
Granted, I'm all for someone 'growing'. Someone can grow in a small period of time or over years. I'm even interested in someone telling me their mental processes how he/she went from 'point A' to 'point B'.
Here's a comparable: like someone insisting for years, "I hate the city: it's awful, it's dirty, it's smelly, there's no green grass..." and then moving into the city and saying "It's wonderful, I love the crowds, the clutter is charming, and who needs grass anyway?"
This person is not the first one I've seen to make 180-degree stance changes. The ODD part is, that when these people are asked, "Hmm, you had a different opinion before", they get defensive about what they said in the past -- to the point of real anger. I've several times (from several people) say to me, "Why are you telling me what I said in the past? There is no connection between the past and the present!"
(what? no connection between the past and the present... what about the person him/herself?)
Once again for clarity, I understand that people GROW (and change)!
But what's this about their anger and defensiveness for the process? And do these people realize that others may be affected by their changes of mind, and even a little explanation helps?
My point is about how to understand the true character of a person, if everything, (EVERYTHING!), is subject to 180-degree changes - even the previous changes.
1) Is this just ME [being anal] wanting the thru-line of "Here is how I changed my mind...?"
2) Do people just not like talking about their mental processes (point A went to point B)?
3) Are people just EMBARRASSED about [publicly] changing their mind, and being reminded that they haven't had this new idea forever? Is that why the hostility?
4) Do these people realize that doing 180-degree changes confuses people around them?
Lauren
PS:
Here's something I just remembered:
The two main people I am reflecting on (about being mind-changers) BOTH say, "I hate change! Human being hate change!" yet get defensive about changing their minds frequently.
-------------------------
Lauren Muney
certified physical fitness trainer
certified health coach
wellcoach
http://www.physicalmind.com
There is no escape from your life... solve the problems and get on with it.
"Just tell her you love her and you think she kicks ass" ~AndrewinNH
"I'm moving [Lauren] to guru status" ~Last Tri in 83
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