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Define maturity and wisdom
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Now, these two topics have come up in my life recently and I want to get other viewpoints on them. What does it mean when someone says you are mature? What does it mean when someone says that you are wise? What does it mean when someone says you are immature?

How are these two qualities developed? Is it through personal relationships? Does it come about because of just living life and having life experiences? What other personal qualities added up together equate into maturity and wisdom?

There are lots or reasons that I'm asking this. I guess I'm going through one of those self-evaluation and "who do I want to be" moments right now. Another reason is that one of the reasons that my parents got divorced is because my dad is immature. I do not want to end up like my dad for various reasons. Finally, I tend to be attracted to older women (i'm 27) since I feel like I have more in common with them than women my age or younger. My ideal age range is 27-33ish, but it's difficult for me because they see a number (27) instead of seeing me.

What is maturity? Does it mean having a plan in life, knowing yourself, and being yourself? Is it an outlook on life? Is it handling responsibility and difficult situations easily? Is it respecting and being kind to others? What does it take and what does it take on the other end to be immature? When someone says that I'm mature for my age, do they mean that I'm too serious for my age? I'm just trying to put my finger on what this maturity tag means and if it is different than what i perceive to be maturity.

So, what do the other (and hopefully older, wiser, and more mature ST'ers) think about this?

Thanks.

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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [erichollins] [ In reply to ]
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Uh, you did just make a joke about "balls" in my thread... I'm not sure what this says about maturity, but... jk ;-)
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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [austin79] [ In reply to ]
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Your brother started it, I was trying to be funny, not immature, and I was preaching safe arch stretching!

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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [erichollins] [ In reply to ]
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Thanks for keeping my safety in mind! I would not want to contract a nasty foot disease from multiple golf balls...
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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [austin79] [ In reply to ]
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Seriously, you beat me by like 2 seconds from posting the same thing.

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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [erichollins] [ In reply to ]
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maturity is when you really don't care about age.

in general, that means, you're really really really old and you have elementary school friends who speak latin.
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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [erichollins] [ In reply to ]
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Wisdom is the ability to see things as they really are.

Maturity is just someone's opinion of a set of behaviours that others should show..


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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [erichollins] [ In reply to ]
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Maturity is the accrual of life experiences which help guide you in achieving whatever it is you want to achieve, as well as help you define those goals.

Wisdom is the ability to understand what this maturity has brought you and helps you give it meaning and value.

Vague, I know, but put another way, maturity is about experience and wisdom is about understanding what that experience teaches you about the world.


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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [erichollins] [ In reply to ]
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these things are subjective to an extent--they cannot be quantified.

but i think wisdom is living in a greater understanding of things, and being able to think long term and have long term vision.

maturity is about making good decisions, even about things that are tough. it's also about understanding consequences and being responsible for them.
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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [erichollins] [ In reply to ]
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Wisdom--the ability to understand the essential truths of life.

Maturity--the ability to live according to the essential truths of life.

In other words, when you become the "master of your domain" and live your life in an ethical, responsible manner as a member of society and are not influenced by the latest trends, fashions, pop psychology or other superficial crap, you have attained some wisdom and maturity.

As far as older women go, I married one (3 1/2 years older) for the same reasons you mentioned. All the women my age or younger seemed extremely shallow to me. It took her a whaile to realize she wasn't really "robbing the cradle." Keep at it, you'll succeed. When you find one that can see beyond the age difference, you may have a keeper.
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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [tri_bri2] [ In reply to ]
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Wisdom--the ability to understand the essential truths of life.
Maturity--the ability to live according to the essential truths of life.


That's pretty good. I was thinking about this a little over the weekend, actually. It seems like wisdom and maturity are not held in such high regard, sometimes.

Saw a bumper sticker the other day that said, "I'm getting older, but I refuse to grow up." Well, grand.

Also read a story on Bode Miller that attributes to him the sentiment that "Fun is the source of all joy." I know it's mainly just a stupid Nike marketing gimmick, but still, sad.








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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [erichollins] [ In reply to ]
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What is maturity?

Someone is mature when they stop trying to act the way they think others want to see them, and act like the person they are.

What is wisdom?

Someone is wise when they realize they don't know everything.

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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [Casey] [ In reply to ]
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Casey - I like the maturity one: Someone is mature when they stop trying to act the way they think others want to see them, and act like the person they are.


When we work out what wisdom means i'll be listening for the answer.
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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [Casey] [ In reply to ]
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So if you're a horse's ass, it's mature to stop acting like a nice guy and just be a horse's ass?
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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [tri_bri2] [ In reply to ]
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So if you're a horse's ass, it's mature to stop acting like a nice guy and just be a horse's ass?

Yes, and that's why there are so many mature people here in the Lavender room.

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Casey, you are a wise man - blueraider_mike 11/13/2008

Casey, This is an astute observation. - Slowbern 11/17/2008
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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [vitus979] [ In reply to ]
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there was an interesting bit in the new york times yesterday, talking about happiness. it used to be about virtue, wisdom, etc, and now happiness is about having a puppy...and is as if we are all entitled to it. interesting...
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Re: Define maturity and wisdom [erichollins] [ In reply to ]
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Wisdom is having seen a situation several times before so you look wise when you react calmly to it.

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