edbikebabe wrote:
burnthesheep wrote:
I had some that weren't fun. Girl I met online I ask during the first date what she likes to do for fun and "I knit". Oh, what else like outdoors stuff or reading or........."no, I knit". Womp womp womp.
But, the freaking winner is this one......
I was in a VW car group back in the day. Not the cool aircooled stuff, the newer stuff. Introduced to a girl through the group. First time out things go alright. Little light fun at the end, but she told me she has to take medication for seizures. Uhmmmkay. Next time out goes fine, and we do the deed back at my house. Proceeds to have a freaking seizure in my bed after we did the deed, no shit. Like, wtf.
Yeah, I can sympathize with folks that have medical issues........but she didn't say she had them like all the time, including after playing hide the bishop. Then she just pretended nothing happened. Didn't get up and take any meds, didn't say needed any help. Nothing.
Uhmmm, nope. GMTFO of there!
I hope your reaction was due to youthful ignorance.
She was probably used to having them and she did tell you she took medication for it. There's not a lot of predicting when seizures happen, and the meds are to help control them (ie she probably took a set dose at certain times).
This did cross my mind.
The medication part didn't bother me, it was that when people mention things to you there's usually a "degree" or "severity" aspect to it.
If I had a friend take up cycling and want to go for a ride and they say "hey I sometimes have some knee problems" I'd try to not make the first ride too far or too hilly. But, if after two minutes of riding the guy is writhing on the ground telling me he's destroyed his knee..........that's a totally different level.
At that time in life I had other friends that had similar conditions, and they let the people around them know how severe it was and what to expect and do and what not to do if something happens. So that people don't weird out.
Placing the onus on the person without the problem to probe deeper isn't really fair as that's a really uncomfortable thing to have to do to pry more to get an acceptable level of understanding.