Many who raced IM St George back in the day would probably disagree on both counts.

Adults don't quibble over my point.

There's a difference between needing permission and seeking agreement.
It seems pretty clear that post refers to the latter.
The fact that you responded as you did suggests you don't really understand that - for your sake, I hope you figure it out!

Best post in the thread.

Ummmmm..... I'm not proud of it but I did in lie in order to do IMTX this year. My kids are in high school and middle school and my wife asked me in '16 to give it up till the kids graduate. So I did... Until my persuasive friends started needling me and golf just wasn't very much fun. So I signed up for IMTX in late December with my business card and told my wife I was training for 1/2 IMTX on 4/26. She was happy and oblivious to the difference in training until about 3 weeks before the race during one of my peak training weekends. She asked if I was going to be home before 11am and I said 'No'. She asked before noon and I said 'No.' She then said 'are you doing a @#$%ing Ironman!? I didn't reply. And then all of a sudden all the training I had been doing in the Winter and Spring became totally unreasonable, excessive and selfish. Thankfully I had just enough fitness to barely KQ and now my kids are excited to be going to Hawaii! So, yes, I lied but sometimes it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.

The tactics you adopted to KQ AND to maintain your relationship were both skillfully played. All will be forgotten on a Sunday in October after another peak month for training in September. Well done!

I signed up for Ironman Canada (2012) while living in Japan with a toddler. My wife seemed ok with it at the time, but as a Japanese wife, she had no idea the training or money required to do the race. Those 4-6 hour Saturday and Sunday bike rides took their toll on our marriage. Planning on signing up again for 2022 (I do the race every 10 years to prove my worth as an athlete). Not married anymore, so I have nothing to worry about next time (unless I get remarried by then).