"If a woman does not feel like she is getting your attention, it is likely that she may try to get someone else's attention. Not because she doesn't love you, but because she doesn't feel loved."
This is a game that high school girls play, not mature women. What is wrong with just sitting down and talking to your significant other about how you feel? If your goals in life are not congruent, just split up and go your separate ways. If you want a good, long-lasting relationship, be honest about your needs and wants up front. Don't start up a relationship with someone who is training 20 hours a week if you "need" him/her to be around you, heaping praise and flowers on you all the time. Conversely, find out the other persons needs and wants also, and don't expect to "change" them once you get married or move in together. This is what the dating process is all about. Today, most couples move in and start having sex before they really know each other. Then, the emotional baggage becomes so great, that when they find out they are really incompatible, all hell breaks loose.
My story--After dating/being engaged to several needy, "high-maintenance" types (yes, they were great on the up side, but HELL on the down side), I finally found a mature, sensible, self-assured, financially independent, educated, and beautiful woman who loved me. Unable to believe my good luck, I proposed. That was 25 years ago, and we are still going strong today. Does she have a butt like Fernanda Keller? No, but I didn't fall in love with a butt, or a face, or a pair of tits. I went for the package deal--I accepted her as she was and she me. She is the mother of my 3 boys and together, they are what I do everything for--my job, my time as a Boy Scout leader, and my triathlon. She has the same dedication to the four of us "boys." Do I tell her I love her and give her flowers every day? No--our relationship doesn't need that. We have been through sickness and health, poverty and wealth, even built two houses, without splitting up. We believe if we can get through what we have so far, with God's help, we can get through anything.
My point is, you can build on a solid foundation, but you can't putty over the cracks of a bad foundation with games, roses, and faux "attention."
This is a game that high school girls play, not mature women. What is wrong with just sitting down and talking to your significant other about how you feel? If your goals in life are not congruent, just split up and go your separate ways. If you want a good, long-lasting relationship, be honest about your needs and wants up front. Don't start up a relationship with someone who is training 20 hours a week if you "need" him/her to be around you, heaping praise and flowers on you all the time. Conversely, find out the other persons needs and wants also, and don't expect to "change" them once you get married or move in together. This is what the dating process is all about. Today, most couples move in and start having sex before they really know each other. Then, the emotional baggage becomes so great, that when they find out they are really incompatible, all hell breaks loose.
My story--After dating/being engaged to several needy, "high-maintenance" types (yes, they were great on the up side, but HELL on the down side), I finally found a mature, sensible, self-assured, financially independent, educated, and beautiful woman who loved me. Unable to believe my good luck, I proposed. That was 25 years ago, and we are still going strong today. Does she have a butt like Fernanda Keller? No, but I didn't fall in love with a butt, or a face, or a pair of tits. I went for the package deal--I accepted her as she was and she me. She is the mother of my 3 boys and together, they are what I do everything for--my job, my time as a Boy Scout leader, and my triathlon. She has the same dedication to the four of us "boys." Do I tell her I love her and give her flowers every day? No--our relationship doesn't need that. We have been through sickness and health, poverty and wealth, even built two houses, without splitting up. We believe if we can get through what we have so far, with God's help, we can get through anything.
My point is, you can build on a solid foundation, but you can't putty over the cracks of a bad foundation with games, roses, and faux "attention."