Ok so here is my dillema. My wife is complaining that she feels over weight. I personally think she looks amazing and I love her more than I can really express in words, but in general she's Da BOMB. Two years ago she had our first child and while nursing she lost all of her pregnancy weight but since she stopped nursing about 3 months ago she has put some back on. She is far from obese or fat but shes complaining about being jiggly, clothes fitting tight and what not. SO I keep trying to get her to workout with me but there is road block after road block that she puts up and I just dont know what else to do. Here is a rundown of what I have tried and what she will or wont do.
Running - wont do it
She ran XC and track in HS and did some damage to her hips that we only really got fixed a couple of years ago so she is very much afraid to run for fear that it will hurt her again.
Biking - In general will nor ride a regular bike
She does not like cycling and has had it inflame the problems in her hips so again gunshy. I can get her to ride a recumbent stationary bike in the gym but more on that later.
Swimming - wont do it
Will not currently swim in a public pool b/c she does not want to be seen in public in her swimsuit. I tell her that open lane time are very slow and that when you are in a lane nobody really pays attention to you so you don't have to worry. She tells me if i want her to swim I will have to get her, her own pool. I'm currently working on that as we have an offer on a house that has a pool. However that will not be usable till next summer.
Other obstacles. She will not workout by herself. Has to have someone with her. If I come with her then that leaves the problem of who will watch our daughter. The YMCA that we are members of offers free child care for 1.5 hours per visit but she feels guilty I think about leaving our daughter to go to work and then coming home and dropping her with someone else. I have offered to anytime she wants watch our daughter so she can go to the gym but like I said she will not go alone and she has no friends that she can go with.
Walking - this is my best shot but typically after work she is tired and does not feel like it. Also if there is anything on her legs like tights or warmup pants she gets real itchy legs that cut our walks severly short.
SO I really dont know what to do. Plus put all this in context that if I try to encourage her to workout she feels like im saying she is fat and needs to lose weight when all I really want is for her to feel good about herself and to be happy.
So im at a total loss and really dont know what to suggest next or how to work around some of these issues.
I think whats also hard for me to see is that I have known my wife since she was 13 (were both 30 now) and she was very athletic all through HS until her injury and now she doesn't do anything. SO I know she has it in her but I just dont know how to get over some of these barriers.
help please!
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God's in his heaven, alls right with the world -Nerv
Running - wont do it
She ran XC and track in HS and did some damage to her hips that we only really got fixed a couple of years ago so she is very much afraid to run for fear that it will hurt her again.
Biking - In general will nor ride a regular bike
She does not like cycling and has had it inflame the problems in her hips so again gunshy. I can get her to ride a recumbent stationary bike in the gym but more on that later.
Swimming - wont do it
Will not currently swim in a public pool b/c she does not want to be seen in public in her swimsuit. I tell her that open lane time are very slow and that when you are in a lane nobody really pays attention to you so you don't have to worry. She tells me if i want her to swim I will have to get her, her own pool. I'm currently working on that as we have an offer on a house that has a pool. However that will not be usable till next summer.
Other obstacles. She will not workout by herself. Has to have someone with her. If I come with her then that leaves the problem of who will watch our daughter. The YMCA that we are members of offers free child care for 1.5 hours per visit but she feels guilty I think about leaving our daughter to go to work and then coming home and dropping her with someone else. I have offered to anytime she wants watch our daughter so she can go to the gym but like I said she will not go alone and she has no friends that she can go with.
Walking - this is my best shot but typically after work she is tired and does not feel like it. Also if there is anything on her legs like tights or warmup pants she gets real itchy legs that cut our walks severly short.
SO I really dont know what to do. Plus put all this in context that if I try to encourage her to workout she feels like im saying she is fat and needs to lose weight when all I really want is for her to feel good about herself and to be happy.
So im at a total loss and really dont know what to suggest next or how to work around some of these issues.
I think whats also hard for me to see is that I have known my wife since she was 13 (were both 30 now) and she was very athletic all through HS until her injury and now she doesn't do anything. SO I know she has it in her but I just dont know how to get over some of these barriers.
help please!
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God's in his heaven, alls right with the world -Nerv