First time poster here in the Womens :)
So whats up with female bullies?!?
I've been teaching HS for 16 years and almost exclusively grade 9 /10 boys phys ed. I've become extremely adept in spotting and dealing with the male bullies in my classes but female bullies...?!!??...I am fast learning that they are a whole different can of worms.
I never had sisters, I grew up in the sport dressing rooms around other guys and as mentioned have never taught or coached females until 5 weeks ago when I stepped in to take over a grade 9 girls volleyball team from the regular coach who had to go on med leave.
Everything was going- or seemed to be going:) - hunky dory until last night when my assistant -a senior female here at the school - comes to me with news that 5 of the starters have been bullying the 6 th starter since pretty well the start of the season.!! I was shocked to say the least!!
Never ever saw any of the usual telling signs of bullying that I see with my boys. In fact the opposite...these girls looked to be best of friends with lots of group hugs on the court , smilling, giggling etc etc . The victim is tall , athletic and pretty ...as are the supposed bullies. They have been together since grade 7 and I am hearing today from admin that the roots of all this go as far back as junior high!!!!
I'm just amazed ....and its served as a real eye opener for me not only as a teacher but as a father of a little 3 year old girl. I certainly don't want her to be a victim some day or to be the offender. The offenders in this case all 'appear' perfect and their parents all 'appear' to be loving , supportive and (well educated) from what I see.
Not to mention the mothers all seem to be good friends all sitting together at games.
This is all really weird and troublesome
That's all ::))
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So whats up with female bullies?!?
I've been teaching HS for 16 years and almost exclusively grade 9 /10 boys phys ed. I've become extremely adept in spotting and dealing with the male bullies in my classes but female bullies...?!!??...I am fast learning that they are a whole different can of worms.
I never had sisters, I grew up in the sport dressing rooms around other guys and as mentioned have never taught or coached females until 5 weeks ago when I stepped in to take over a grade 9 girls volleyball team from the regular coach who had to go on med leave.
Everything was going- or seemed to be going:) - hunky dory until last night when my assistant -a senior female here at the school - comes to me with news that 5 of the starters have been bullying the 6 th starter since pretty well the start of the season.!! I was shocked to say the least!!
Never ever saw any of the usual telling signs of bullying that I see with my boys. In fact the opposite...these girls looked to be best of friends with lots of group hugs on the court , smilling, giggling etc etc . The victim is tall , athletic and pretty ...as are the supposed bullies. They have been together since grade 7 and I am hearing today from admin that the roots of all this go as far back as junior high!!!!
I'm just amazed ....and its served as a real eye opener for me not only as a teacher but as a father of a little 3 year old girl. I certainly don't want her to be a victim some day or to be the offender. The offenders in this case all 'appear' perfect and their parents all 'appear' to be loving , supportive and (well educated) from what I see.
Not to mention the mothers all seem to be good friends all sitting together at games.
This is all really weird and troublesome
That's all ::))
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