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Re: Question for married women: how do you feel about your husband's guys trip to Vegas? [elizabeth] [ In reply to ]
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elizabeth wrote:
Actually, i stumbled upon this quite by accident, I read Thoe911s plea
for a married woman to help convince his wife to agree to him going
to Vegas. You don't believe in monog. relationships, but let me say
that there are many men and women who actually see their marriage
as an equal partnership, both deserving the same respect for their
values and feelings. Everyone has his/her own feelings and opinions
about this type thing and rightfully so.

I would not mind my husband going on a trip like that, as long as I
knew there would not be any strip clubs, stripper parties and the like,
and he would feel the same about me going.

There are a lot of women and actually many men who feel the same
way, and what I have learned over the years, is that a man will walk
out of a relationship over his partner going to these places, doing
these things quicker than a woman will. We are all going to see
others that we find attractive almost anywhere, but to most of us,
going to a source specifically for that purpose is finding sexual
pleasure outside that relationship and is a form of cheating. Not
everyone feels that way and that is fine for them, as i said, everyone
has a right to his/her own feelings and to live accordingly.

THis is a really biiiiiiiggggggg sore spot with me as I was hurt
very badly by this stuff and much much more as a result of it and
to this day, it still hurts, the damage doesn't ever go away. I
decided to learn everything I could about all of it and I did, and
have kept up with it over all these years,

No one has the right to tell you that you are wrong to feel and think
as you do, and i personally would never do that, you are right to
think and feel whatever is right for you,we just believe in keeping it
at home and after 35 years plus (many new g-strings later) this is
what works for us, I am 63 yrs and my husband is 83. and very happy.

I am guessing you are a male, but no matter
have a good life
lol...that is awesome!!!

I'm a 41yo woman. I know shocking with the view points I have.

I think age does have something to do with it...you're being 63 and your husband being 83 (please, don't take offense to this..it's not my intention). You both grew-up in a time where people respect marriage and their partner. I'm not saying people don't now, but I feel people think it's very disposable. We become an instant gratification world and if we don't like something we get rid of it.



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Re: Question for married women: how do you feel about your husband's guys trip to Vegas? [elizabeth] [ In reply to ]
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There is usually very little said about
a man that is so insecure in his own masculinity that he cannot or will not
stand up to peer pressure and is therefore ashamed or embarrassed to
show his partner the respect she deserves for her feelings and moral
values.

Not sure how you deduced this from Theo's post. He says' that he is going for March Madness, which alot of guys enjoy and have done. Peer pressure has nothing to do with it. I think you may be projecting your issues onto Theo's situation.

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Re: Question for married women: how do you feel about your husband's guys trip to Vegas? [kmh1225] [ In reply to ]
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KMH1225, no offense taken and you are exactly right about
the age we grew up in and the difference now. Honestly, my
only intent was to suggest to Theo that there might be more
to his wife's issue than just insecurity and non trust and I tried
to give him an idea of how it can make a partner feel.. I don;t
even know if he read it or any of the posts for that matter.This
is really a sore spot with me for a lot of reasons.

You will love this, when I was young, I remember when a lady
did not wear colored nylons or eye shadow or dark/colored
nail polish until after 5:ooPM, most of us in high school was
not allowed to wear pink lipstick or makeup of any kind until
we were 16, and didn't think of dating until then.

You are exactly right in your comments, now it seems it is
mostly instant gratification and little or no consideration to
the partner, husband/wife most of the time.

Squid, my comment about male insecurity was aimed at the
fact that maybe his wife was concerned about the group
he would be going with and going along with everyone else
regardless of her feelings on the subject.

Anyway, I didn't mean to offend anyone with my comments
and am sorry if I did, but I just hate to think of anyone being
hurt or another marriage damaged by this type thing.

take care
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Re: Question for married women: how do you feel about your husband's guys trip to Vegas? [elizabeth] [ In reply to ]
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Please know you absolutely did not offend me or anyone here!!! Thank you for your responses. Although we see differently, I respect your opinion and can understand why you feel the way you do. You taught me something the last few days. Plus, engaging with people who always agree with me, gets boring ;-)

I hope you have a wonderful evening and thank you again!!



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Re: Question for married women: how do you feel about your husband's guys trip to Vegas? [kmh1225] [ In reply to ]
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I think you are a lovely person, and even though we see
things differently as you said it is interesting to hear
other opinions, although, I have, over the years heard
both men and women who feel the way you do for
many different reasons, I sincerely hope and wish you
the best in life and hope to hear from you.

take care
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