I am 22 dating a man who is 37 and has a 5 year old boy. I love both of them terribly but am having a very difficult time adjusting to the idea of a blended family. I keep trying to get comfortable around his ex and everything was pretty simple in terms of a divorce, they just ended it. But I don't know how to feel about loving a child who is and never can be my biological child. I keep envisioning christmas if I have a child and what am I supposed to do postpone holidays because my boyfriend's son isn't there that day. They have custody so it 4 days a week with us and 3 days a week with his mom. The arrangement is good but I can't wrap my head around going to his events and him not even noticing me when his mom is around. I know everything needs to be certain ways for his son but I want a "normal" life too. ( I know that isn't always how it works) But the main thing is we have been together a year and a half and are crazy about each other, the only stresses we have are not being able to make our own decisions about our family as everything has to be worked out with his mom.
Also I want to move and he can't - unless the mom is willing to let him go but that isn't likely. I don't know what to do? Has anyone ever been in this spot? I feel like I have a lot to offer someone in a relationship and love him with my whole heart but I am afraid this will keep hurting us if I can't let go.
Also I want to move and he can't - unless the mom is willing to let him go but that isn't likely. I don't know what to do? Has anyone ever been in this spot? I feel like I have a lot to offer someone in a relationship and love him with my whole heart but I am afraid this will keep hurting us if I can't let go.