Barks&Purrs wrote:
Rick_pcfl wrote:
That is really sad. I am sure her husband would gladly slow down in exchange for more regular sex if she would just let him know. It makes me wonder if she's being truthful. Either way, it is sad for both of them.The scenario doesnât make sense to me either, but two other friends agreed with her general negative/ avoidance attitude about sex.* I donât think the women lied about how they feel about sex. Is this where you think she was not being truthful?
There is a running joke that the husbands like when the wives get together & drink a little and have fun because it means the husbands will score. This kind of confirms what my friend says about drinking.
I would think that cultural taboos about assertiveness or communication are a problem impacting female expression of preferences. This, in turn, reduces satisfaction for everyone. This is striking to me because Iâm friends with independent, strong-willed women. I think the self-censoring must be pretty strong and deeply ingrained.
* Donât have the impression that it was a complaint-dominated conversation. Two of the 8 expressed happy satisfaction with frequent sex. Three of the 8 had negative attitudes. One friend is single and said she couldnât comment because of lack of opportunity. Two friends were busy talking about something else.
I absolutely believe your conversation and friend to be truthful. I was trapped in such a relationship for quite a long time. It sucks.
I wonder if "independent, strong-willed women" generally have less satisfaction with sex than more traditionally feminine women. I'm sure it would vary widely, but across a large enough sample size, I wonder if there would be a significant difference.
Outside of social taboo, and religion, I'm of the opinion that having sex with someone outside of a marriage should be fair game to alleviate the pressure and stress of mismatched sex drive/desire which is a huge stressor and breaks up a lot of families.