I am looking for some advice and best practices regarding hiring a live-in nanny. My wife and I have a second child on the way this winter, and we're contemplating "converting" our part time nanny to a live-in. With the prospect of work travel, going back to the office 2-3 days per week, and aging parents whose ability to help is ending, we'll need more support. My wife and I both work long hours with lots of stress, travel, and last-minute deadlines.
Prior to working for us, our nanny lived with a family for 11 years. She works for us 30 hrs per week currently and our 3 year old son loves her and is bilingual now. (He goes to a second language immersion pre-school 2 days per week). She's a ~60 y/o "granny nanny" with no dependents in this country. We pay her over the table, ~$29/hr gross (~$23 net). If she lived with us, she'd live in a 700 sq-ft in-law unit in our finished basement and at our summer home she'd also have a private room with en-suite bath. She wouldn't have a separate guest house or separate entrance, but our primary home is 11K sq feet and summer home 6K so she'd have ample privacy and a nice set up.
Any guidance on how her compensation would change if she was a live in? Any tips for establishing good ground rules? I'm concerned about how to find the line between "treating her like family" but also recognize that she's an employee, and how to give her a regular schedule but also part of the idea of her living-in is having someone "on call" for when my wife and get stuck across the country due to a delayed flight, etc.
Then there all the non-obvious questions... like, should we reimburse her and let her buy her own car, or let her use one of our cars (liability issues)? What do we do if we go on a family vacation without her, I guess she just rules the roost? What if she goes to her home country for the holidays, can one of our family members use her room as an overflow guest room? Can I no longer eat a midnight bowl of ice cream in my boxer shorts for risk she'll be in the kitchen?
Other pros/cons of a live-in to consider from those who have done it?
Prior to working for us, our nanny lived with a family for 11 years. She works for us 30 hrs per week currently and our 3 year old son loves her and is bilingual now. (He goes to a second language immersion pre-school 2 days per week). She's a ~60 y/o "granny nanny" with no dependents in this country. We pay her over the table, ~$29/hr gross (~$23 net). If she lived with us, she'd live in a 700 sq-ft in-law unit in our finished basement and at our summer home she'd also have a private room with en-suite bath. She wouldn't have a separate guest house or separate entrance, but our primary home is 11K sq feet and summer home 6K so she'd have ample privacy and a nice set up.
Any guidance on how her compensation would change if she was a live in? Any tips for establishing good ground rules? I'm concerned about how to find the line between "treating her like family" but also recognize that she's an employee, and how to give her a regular schedule but also part of the idea of her living-in is having someone "on call" for when my wife and get stuck across the country due to a delayed flight, etc.
Then there all the non-obvious questions... like, should we reimburse her and let her buy her own car, or let her use one of our cars (liability issues)? What do we do if we go on a family vacation without her, I guess she just rules the roost? What if she goes to her home country for the holidays, can one of our family members use her room as an overflow guest room? Can I no longer eat a midnight bowl of ice cream in my boxer shorts for risk she'll be in the kitchen?
Other pros/cons of a live-in to consider from those who have done it?