JSA wrote:
edbikebabe wrote:
JSA wrote:
gotsand wrote:
JasoninHalifax wrote:
gotsand wrote:
You don't get respect, love, and concern out of the OP?I don't know the OP, so I have to assume that he respects and loves his wife for who she is, warts and all. but the way the OP is written, he's annoyed that she's putting on weight. That seems like his problem, not hers...
We're on the same page.
You're right. He should have said, at least 6 or 7 times, how much he loves and respects her, how beautiful she is on the inside and out, and how lucky he is to have her.
Ho-ly shit ... You don't know this guy. You don't know his wife. You don't know his motivations. You don't know whether he has a family history of poor health due to weight. Or, maybe he's just a horses ass. But, jumping immediately to that conclusion because the guy asked his question(s) directly is a very LR thing to do, but, quite ridiculous.
burnthesheep is right - a marriage is a partnership. Neither party has the right to control the other, but, neither party has the right to do anything and everything they want - IF they truly believe it to be a partnership.
Now, my denim-man-leggings make my buttocks look sublime. That fact cannot be challenged. But, if the booty was getting a little flabby, goddammit, wifie better give me a head's up before I embarrass myself in public! It's a partnership! Just like I expect her to do a boogie check (she's only 4' 11" tall, so, she can see right up the nose), I expect her to be honest with me about my appearance and me about her's. There is a way to do that respectfully and with honest concern, so, I am not advocating being a dick. But, again, you are making a leap in this case.
He said he was embarrassed by her eating. That is about him - not her.
If I walked around in assless chaps, wifie would be embarrassed by my attire (well, maybe not, my buttocks are sublime). That would be on me - not her.
If I ate directly from the buffet line, without use of plate or utensils, wifie would be embarrassed by my eating. That would be about me - not her.
If I spent every evening intentionally eating myself ill, wifie would be embarrassed by my eating. That would be about me - not her.
Nope, your actions are your problem, her feelings about them are her problem.
Really, if the OP has an issue with his wife's eating, he needs to talk to her. Unless of course he wants to restrict her access to money and lock all cupboards and the fridge.