Maybe I'm wrong and not everyone needs a hobby. But I feel like my spouse focuses too much on only work and kid stuff. It dominates 99% of all her conversation topics. You have to have an outlet for yourself and to blow off steam.
It's not a matter of time or us sharing or swapping time to be equitable. It's the fact that she just won't do it.
She used to run and maybe averages one 5k length run per month now. The stars have to be perfect nowadays almost like Goldilocks: not too hot, not too cold, not that time of month, not too tired, I can't eat too soon before, I can't eat too far before, I can't this, I can't that. She hasn't routinely exercised now in half a year to a year.
I started doing my stuff a few years back so I didn't have a car hobby, golf, and going to the gym for exercise all taking up time. I sold that car and consolidated to only cycling stuff. Of which I only do one thing per week that takes up time. Even then, not every week. Especially in winter.
We have pets at home, and we garden, but nothing to an extent you could consider it your sole "hobby".
When this is the case, I feel like people can build up resentment even though they choose on their own to not do anything.
How do you bring this up without it being an explosion?
It's not a matter of time or us sharing or swapping time to be equitable. It's the fact that she just won't do it.
She used to run and maybe averages one 5k length run per month now. The stars have to be perfect nowadays almost like Goldilocks: not too hot, not too cold, not that time of month, not too tired, I can't eat too soon before, I can't eat too far before, I can't this, I can't that. She hasn't routinely exercised now in half a year to a year.
I started doing my stuff a few years back so I didn't have a car hobby, golf, and going to the gym for exercise all taking up time. I sold that car and consolidated to only cycling stuff. Of which I only do one thing per week that takes up time. Even then, not every week. Especially in winter.
We have pets at home, and we garden, but nothing to an extent you could consider it your sole "hobby".
When this is the case, I feel like people can build up resentment even though they choose on their own to not do anything.
How do you bring this up without it being an explosion?