Do it, never seen it as a big deal, and really don't care what others think.

Ben

not a chance with my 16 year old, I am lucky to get a hug. My 2 year old love kissing mom and dad though.

Creepy. And I'm not Italian...

As long both sides don't mind when the tongues are slipped in I don't see a problem.

Per Tigermilk above, evidently some people feel the need to sexualise it. I think this says more about the people who have issues with it rather than those who do it.

I mean what's next, we have to keep our hands behind our back and do giraffe style neck hugs?

This. My father and I kissed one another on the lips until we could not longer. Rarely did he ever kiss me on the cheeks but did with my friends.

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Agree with everyone here so far. It's a simple show of affection, nothing sexual about it.

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Well, if they (adults) have cold sores that would be one huge reason not to kiss children...

I don't remember my parents kissing me on the lips and I don't think I'd do it. If nothing else I would be afraid to get the kid sick.

I'm pretty certain that getting sick tends to work the other way with kids - especially once in school / nursery i've never been so sick........

Just being in the same room as the infant petri dishes is enough to make you ill.......

Fine so I don't get sick then

I did when my daughter was little but somewhere along the line transitioned to a forehead kiss.... I still kiss my cat on the lips. : )

My wife & I kiss both of our kids on the lips, son is almost 7, daughter is 3.5. Although my favorite spot to kiss them is their foreheads, because I like their unique scent that's there & I've been doing it since they were babies, at least 10 times a day each. But we're an affectionate family.

I know another guy who won't at all kiss his kids on the lips, never has even when they were babies, I've never actually seen him kiss his kids even on the cheeks or forehead, to be honest. But he's also the same type of guy who won't wear anything with pink on it and whose sons think wearing pink is "only for girls." Good guy, but he thinks like a neanderthal on these things.

Some people just like to make everything about a potential sexual appearance where there is none. And as a result I think it eventually cheapens, demeans, and furthers the taboo of sex with their kids.

Today's entertainment is all about sexualisation. The news is full of stories of child abuse. Male teachers get looked at unfairly with suspicion.

It's sad now that people view such an innocent act of affection as creepy.

I never really thought about it until I saw my brother kiss his F I L on the lips. Pretty sure they are Italian. That was a bit of a WTF moment. Parents kissing their own kids has never really bothered me. I've heard people say they think it's creepy.

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Do you have a kiss for daddy?

I think I've shaken my father in laws hand three times ... meeting him the first time, after I asked for his blessing to marry, and in front of the altar. Kissing him on the lips? NFW

Both entertainment and the news seem to be about sexual angles...not that there's much differentiation between most mainstream news and entertainment sources in the U.S.

And it's really unfortunate because that basis of over-sexualizing everything makes people suspect of or question everything. I'm hesitant to let my son have his friends over inside the house if my wife isn't home unless I know the parents really well...which excludes him from having friends over for about 3-4 months of the year of indoor play weather in Michigan when our winters are sometimes too awful for kids to play outside for very long. I've seen accusations from people & it's not worth the chance. The nail in the coffin for this was when he and his friend came in to play while I was in the shower in the master bathroom, I had the bathroom door open & the bedroom door partially cracked so I could hear what the kids were up to (you can't see anything from the hallway they should have been in), and the neighbor kid came all the way in the bathroom, never heard him come in; I don't think he saw anything, but I was stepping out of the shower as he walked in, and he ran out when I yelled at him to leave. I freaked out to my wife and was afraid of being accused of exposing myself; fortunately nothing became of it, but I've heard of people being accused of similar things or less. What a world we live in...

True story. The first time I met my future FIL was around a month after I started dating my wife. I reach out, shake his hand, and say "It's nice to meet you Mr. X," and he immediately replies in a stern voice, "The name is Rob. If you ever call me Mr. again I'll knock you flat on your ass!" That was a long 2 hour visit. Eventually I came to realize that's just his sense of humor and alpha-male posturing and that he's a big pain in the ass, but it's part of his schtick and charm & he's become a close friend and someone I respect the hell out of. And he's a guy who still gives his daughter a quick kiss on the lips, hopefully never me though...even though I once had to rub Desitin on his "upper ass, lower back" during a 4 day adventure race when rain and chafing began to take its toll. I'd rather have had a kiss on the lips!

I don't want school germs!

Love my kid- but she can share germs with her friends. We kiss on the cheek. Heck I read to her for 30 minutes a night and was rewarded with lice (but I still do it). Kids are cute, fun, wonderful and super gross. Moms don't get sick days I kiss cheeks or foreheads.

I generally kiss my 5 year old on the forehead or his cheek. He generally lays a big smacker on my lips.

No there isn't anything sexual about it. Anyone who thinks that came from a home with parents who didn't show affection with them.

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His response to my "what's up with that?" was in line with this thread. It's not a sexual thing, the entire family does it, blah blah blah. I told him I had never noticed it before and I didn't really care. I was just curious as to when he caught the gay. That was years ago. We still kid him about it.

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Funny you should bring this up because I long noticed that over the years non-romantic kissing seemed to have gone out of style. When I was a kid whenever aunts and uncles would visit the men would greet women with a kiss and the women would greet each other with a kiss and the men would greet each other with a handshake. I used to kiss my mom, aunts, grandma and sister-in-law. Occasionally when I or she was particularly jubilant I might even kiss a platonic female friend. I noticed in the 80's that when I would see my sister-in-law and try to kiss her like I used to she would turn her head and kiss the air, when I tried to kiss my nieces they would turn their head and offer me their cheek. For the last two decades the only person I kissed non-romantically was my mom. Non-romantic kisses now seem weird. I always wondered what caused this shift in behavior.

 
No one thinks it is sexual, it is just fuckin weird!

If you want to kiss your young kids on the lips go ahead I guess, but grown adults kissing on the lips? Weird as hell. My wife's step dad does it with his mom and it is just weird as hell, obviously not sexual at all, but weird to see.

To be fair, we're on a forum of people who, by choice, spending thousands of dollars on gear, wearing skin tight clothing, & shaving body hair for the sole purpose of saving a few seconds in amateur competitions that inherently mean nothing in the end, only to prove who's the best at exercising in their particular regional group & age bracket.

I'd have to say that's a little more weird than parents & children who show affection with a quick peck on the lips!

 
I am 31 and can't think of a single person I know in my age group that kisses anyone other than their SO on the lips.

Must be an old person thing. :)

Obviously the behavior for showing affection is learned and cultural. What I was getting at was when I was a kid in the 1960's and 1970's it wasn't weird because everyone did it; it was just normal. It started to get weird in the 1980's. I wonder if the change came from the way people behave in movies and TV shows? Was it the AIDS crisis that made people afraid of each other's bodily fluids (I understand you can't contract HIV from kissing though)? Was it the increasing influence of religious fundamentalism and fear of veiled sexuality? The Victorians would put skirts on pianos and trees because they found piano legs and tree crotches obscene. In 2002 John Ashcroft put curtains around the Spirit of Justice statue in the Justice Building because one of Lady Justice's breasts was exposed. Are we so prone as a society to see everything as sexual we are inhibited from showing affection?

At some point my parents stopped kissing me on the lips and I've always assumed the same thing would happen with my kids.

Wait, you mean this isn't about The Donald creepin' on Ivanka...?

Now you've gone & done it.

This is why we can't have nice threads!! Somebody always has to bring up Teflon Don!

What about some undersweater action if the kid has done a good thing?

Over the pants only.

Nice.

I'm 54 so age doesn't identify the circle of parent/child lip kissers. I've met all kinds of folks in my life, but I've missed this one. Had no clue it was out there.

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Lips or elsewhere doesn't make a difference to me, but one of the dads of my kids' friends often refers to his male kids as "sweety" when he talks to them. He gives me the heeby jeebies whenever i hear him do it.

Cold sores are usually HSV1 outbreaks. It's not cool to give the herp to children, and it can kill newborns.

I'm pretty certain that getting sick tends to work the other way with kids - especially once in school / nursery i've never been so sick........

Just being in the same room as the infant petri dishes is enough to make you ill.......

My thoughts exactly. I don't find anything wrong with or sexual about. I ain't doing it because warding off the germs is a full time job without being so close to other bodily fluids. When I was a kid some of our family kissed on the lips and some did cheeks. Others would pinch my cheeks which was a form of child abuse I believe.

I never liked kissing on the lips because it grossed me out as a kid...maybe I was always a little OCD about germs. So I never did it as an adult.

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Who's your daddy?

Sorry - couldn't resist

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