I woke up last Wednesday in the middle of the night to my wife crying. Her father has been sick for a while. Mostly escalating muscle pain. They flew down to visit for Thanksgiving, but he had issues breathing on the flight back. That morning he took a higher than usual dose of Prednisone and apparently that can cause lung weakness at high altitudes. He refused oxygen. So he has been home, but never full recovered from that flight.
Last week he went into surgery to determine the cause, as they have been unable to diagnose. He had a heart attack coming out of surgery, and complete organ failure. His body has gone septic and he is in an induced coma. She left that morning by 5:00 am.
Her parents have been more like parents to me than my own in my adulthood. So this isn't coming from somebody who doesn't care for their in-laws, but how long is reasonable for somebody to leave their spouse and two kids under the age of 5. She is now saying it will be NEXT SUNDAY? My kids are asking a lot of questions, she doesn't want me to answer. At what point is it too much to tell her she needs to come home. I'm getting frustrated. Am I in the right? Or is this likely own selfishness or lack of empathy? In the last day it went from a minor thought to pressure cooker in my head. Maybe things will be better during the work week when there is stuff to do, and less time to think about it.
"In the world I see you are stalking elk through the damp canyon forests around the ruins of Rockefeller Center. You'll wear leather clothes that will last you the rest of your life. You'll climb the wrist-thick kudzu vines that wrap the Sears Towers. And when you look down, you'll see tiny figures pounding corn, laying stripes of venison on the empty car pool lane of some abandoned superhighway." T Durden
Last week he went into surgery to determine the cause, as they have been unable to diagnose. He had a heart attack coming out of surgery, and complete organ failure. His body has gone septic and he is in an induced coma. She left that morning by 5:00 am.
Her parents have been more like parents to me than my own in my adulthood. So this isn't coming from somebody who doesn't care for their in-laws, but how long is reasonable for somebody to leave their spouse and two kids under the age of 5. She is now saying it will be NEXT SUNDAY? My kids are asking a lot of questions, she doesn't want me to answer. At what point is it too much to tell her she needs to come home. I'm getting frustrated. Am I in the right? Or is this likely own selfishness or lack of empathy? In the last day it went from a minor thought to pressure cooker in my head. Maybe things will be better during the work week when there is stuff to do, and less time to think about it.
"In the world I see you are stalking elk through the damp canyon forests around the ruins of Rockefeller Center. You'll wear leather clothes that will last you the rest of your life. You'll climb the wrist-thick kudzu vines that wrap the Sears Towers. And when you look down, you'll see tiny figures pounding corn, laying stripes of venison on the empty car pool lane of some abandoned superhighway." T Durden
