The cost/benefit analysis of taking risks vs. enjoying oneself/ aren't that simple. My 94 year old mom just spent a month quarantined at my house (w/grandkids), we went on drives and walks and taught how to more fully connect with friends and relatives. We busted her out of her lockdown in assisted living. There really wasn't any shift in risk, though most of her peers have become complete shut-ins. Now, a wedding with ~100 people from all over the place would be an entirely different proposition. We are on "shutdown" yet go on plenty of excursions and have plenty of "socially distant" interactions. I guess that is the middle ground (for us).