overall, i think it's a mentality. for awhile i wanted to be "marathon weight" where i was teeny tiny size2-4 (yeah, me! i can't believe it either, but it's true.).

i finally realized that i won't look like that unless i run marathons again, and i just don't want to. my focus has changed from "get thin" to "get as healthy as possible", and this has done wonders for my habits and outlook.

also i have come to accept my boobs and butt. yes, i can do things to improve my butt, but unless i run a marathon, my boobs aren't going anywhere. i've lost 15 pounds or so in the last year or so, and the boobs remain. now, it's ok, i accept it. i also accept that i don't have the make-up of a very lean triathlete woman; i just don't. rather, my natural type is strong and thick, that's just how it is. so, i'm focusing on "be healthy, and play to my strengths". also i have come to be more appreciative of what i can do, not what i cannot do.

so i don't freak out over my weight anymore.
for the first time in years i can do pull ups, and very challenging yoga stomach exercises (like 5 sets of 20 v-ups. i never could do that before). i can lunge up a hill several times, and feel physically powerful.
also, overall i know i'm working on myself, but have a committement to staying honest and playing to my strengths. and it's working.

my goal is "be healthy, and be as fit as i can be". it's been so much fun to work towards this, it's an all together different approach than i've had in the past.

good luck, i just wanted to share what is helping me, for whatever that is worth.
i have found in the past that when i set a goal that i didn't reach it's because i either didn't really want to reach that goal, or something else better/different occured along the way that caused me to change course.

best,
kitty