sto wrote:
yes, I am saying that the Mormon religion does this. maybe the Mormon's won't publish or publically admit to their tactics, but there is huge pressure on families from stake and council leaders to cut off ties with excommunicated people. well known fact. just like the Moonies will never admit that they encourage their followers to cut off ties to their families.
i'm not talking about losing a temple rec, or a little silly dispute. i'm talking about when someone is "unsealed" from their wife and kids.
i've read several books by ex-Mormons who will all relate that their families and friends were told by elders not to associate.
I won't disagree that this happens, after all we're dealing with both a mostly lay clergy that is often untrained and the fact that Mormonism isn't immune from its fair share of dysfunctional families. But to imply that this is somehow some unpublished or secret policy, that there is huge pressure from "stake and council leaders," will need a lot more evidence than some unnamed books by former Mormons. (I hope you're not relying on the Martha Nibley book.)
I'm very good friends with two of the September Six. (You can't really get more public excommunications.) While they have had their ups and downs, neither has experienced what you claim to be some unwritten policy. One actively continues to criticize the Church and yet is welcome to regularly attend Sunday meetings with her family.
My father-in-law was excommunicated over disagreements re church doctrine, among other things. Yet his former ward continues to invite him to all kinds of activities. No one in our family has received any pressure to disassociate.
For years, I was inactive and openly hostile. Yet the most I've ever experienced is my mother's disappointment.
I'll stop here, but the list couild go on.
Yes, it's anecdotal evidence, but I still think it's significant, considering how immersed I have been in Mormon culture. Frankly, I don't think you know what you're talking about.
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