spousal abuse and rape is a problem, and it's real. but this just seems like the wrong piece to start that conversation.
more than anything when i read these sorts of pieces (which are fairly regular, at least in the guardian) i'm struck by the tone of resentment. why were you married if you clearly disliked this guy so much?
Of course spousal abuse and rape are bad, and I can understand how it's not often discussed or taken seriously, but this woman is not the right person to champion the cause. She consented to the sex but because she didn't like it, or want it, she's now trying to make the claim that she was abused. That's not factual and it sends a horrible message to other woman. Just because you were not in the mood or didn't enjoy the sex does not mean you did not consent to the sex.
Furthermore, she erroneously assumes that the majority of sex assault happens in marriage because the majority of sex happens in marriage. She continues making biased assumptions based on her own experience when she states that marriage creates an environment for assault.