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I'm trying to piece together what he did, and it's not entirely clear. But it sounds like he was a teacher who had sex with a high school age student who was around 10 years younger, eventually married her, and then got divorced. Is that somewhat correct?
Correct. Babysitter since 9th grade, apparent grooming, then sex when she was, I think, legal age. Murky legal territory, in other words.
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It sounds more like a trust issue than anything. They never disclosed it to you. They could have thought that it was none of you business and that disclosure would have caused an overreaction. That might be a legitimate explanation, but it might not.
That's entirely the problem, now. Mrs sphere reminded me of something I'd totally forgotten about. During their last visit, friends stopped by to drop off our 8yo son's friend. Throughout the course of conversation (at which I was not present), he offered to tutor their teenage daughter in volleyball (he was a coach, she's an active player) in the field near our home while the parents went shopping. Mrs sphere privately vouched for him to her mother who was obviously concerned about her daughter spending time alone with a man she just met. So now, it's pretty much my obligation to contact the parents to make sure nothing out of the ordinary occurred. I have no choice in that matter.
And, of course, this could have been avoided had he not offered, or if we had been aware of that history and shut it down. But neither he, nor my mother, thought it relevant to the situation, or to tell us anything about it, and allowed us to get involved, and our friend's children, involved, regardless of whether or not anything may have occurred.
Who in their right minds makes decisions like this? I'm getting closer and closer to the point where cutting off access seems to be the only sensible option.
The devil made me do it the first time, second time I done it on my own - W