BCtriguy1 wrote:
That's essentially what my friends and I have continued to do, but, with no need to create a fictional friend. We've done Cuba, San Francisco, Barcalona, Italy, England, Seattle, Portland (twice), etc plus a slew of more local trips. It's a great way to stay connected to old friends, and get a vacation in. My wife used to do yearly trips to Mexico with her friends from nursing school. We vacation together as well, but I think for marriage to last it's important not to spend every god damned second next to your partner :).
The general rule with our friends is, if you have to ask your wife for permission to go, you're not invited.
My wife is highly successful at getting her chick buddies to all get together from all over the nation once each year. But getting my buddies to do it is almost goddamned impossible. Everyone gets stuck in their family rut and it's impossible to pry them out. I'm secretly a little concerned that my wife picked better buddies.
Re. have to ask wife for permission. Our family calendar for weekends that wife or I might be away is figured out 6-14 months in advance. Other hobby has me away 1 weekend/mo so I'm gone a fair # of weekends. Wife's gone a lot for work, gone more often than I, and we've 3 young boys. Not a way in hell I'd be gone for an over-night without first deconflicting it on the family calendar. I'd be sleeping on the couch for a month. NOTHING makes a house miserable like a pissed off wife.
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