I have known this guy down the street for 13 years. He's a character. Usually smiling and upbeat. He's 40, married, has two kids and he's borderline obese. He's been on a lot of diets, workout programs, Dr. sponsored diets... I have tried all kinds of things to motivate him including meeting him at the gym, bike rides etc. I saw him over the weekend and he's still really big. Got to talking with him and he's basically given up on ever losing the weight and now just expects to die from some side effect of obesity.
It's a couple of days later and I am PO'd at his selfishness and his lack of caring for his family. I am PO'd at his attitude because he can change his life if he wants too. But I also wonder why he's like this.
I have spoken to his wife and she can't get him to change. As much as she tries, he cheats on diets and when she find the evidence he just doesn't care.
When I put on my pseudo-Psychologist hat I see a guy that is knowingly and slowly committing suicide. That would indicate to me he is depressed. Depression can be cured. I looked up lack of will power and it isn't a psychological disease, but it does fall under the symptoms of depression.
So what, if anything, would you folks do? Do I try an hold an intervention? Bring his family and kids in to talk with him? Talk to him/her about depression? Walk away? I can't understand his mindset, but it is what it is. I would really hate to see him fail.
"The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do."
It's a couple of days later and I am PO'd at his selfishness and his lack of caring for his family. I am PO'd at his attitude because he can change his life if he wants too. But I also wonder why he's like this.
I have spoken to his wife and she can't get him to change. As much as she tries, he cheats on diets and when she find the evidence he just doesn't care.
When I put on my pseudo-Psychologist hat I see a guy that is knowingly and slowly committing suicide. That would indicate to me he is depressed. Depression can be cured. I looked up lack of will power and it isn't a psychological disease, but it does fall under the symptoms of depression.
So what, if anything, would you folks do? Do I try an hold an intervention? Bring his family and kids in to talk with him? Talk to him/her about depression? Walk away? I can't understand his mindset, but it is what it is. I would really hate to see him fail.
"The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do."