H- wrote:
PeterP wrote:
So y would anyone want to be in one? Disclaimer, I have not recently broken up nor been in a relationship for awhile and have no desire or intention to be in one. Just an impartial observation.
You got it right. Don't let the naysayer's here try to convince you otherwise. They are all in the 10-25% of people who think they are happy in their relationships (because they don't know true happiness that freedom gives.). Fact is that half the people have had heartbreak end relationships and the other half are living unhappily in a relationship. Once two people enter a romantic relationship they become co-dependent -- afraid of pursuing their real interests for fear of losing the comfort feeling of the relationship. True happiness is in freedom.
I know I'm miserable in my marriage. Like when I see something really amazing on the drive to work, and can't wait to share it with my wife. I hate that.
Or when we wake up spontaneously at 3am for no reason and tell fart jokes until we're both wheezing from laughter and the kids yell at us down the hall to go back to sleep. That sucks.
Or when I have a lousy day at work and I know she'll make me dinner and listen to me bitch just because she wants me to feel better. Why would anyone want that?
Or when she's at the finish line losing her mind because she knows I'm PRing. That, I can do without.
You may say that your freedom gives you happiness, but for me, my happiness has given me great freedom. I'm living the life I choose to live.
But I must just be one of those deluded 25%.